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creppert07 · Dec 12, 2007, 11:14 AM

I need some help!! My boyfriend of almost 2 years want to adopt my son that is almost 13 months old. My boyfriend has been with me since I was 7 weeks pregnant with someone else's child. He looked passed that. And once he was born I gave him my last name. Now we are engaged and my boyfriend wants to be able to give my son his last name too. We have no clue on how to do this. Can anyone help!! :confused:

There is no father on the birth cert. I told him that I was pregnant when I found out and he wanted nothing to do with him. I kept him informed on everything until he changed his phone number and moved. He fell off the earth

mrsjstevens · Dec 12, 2007, 11:17 AM

Is the father on the birth certificate? You'll probably have to get him to sign a waiver of parental rights because adoption is a way of saying you're a parent with full parental rights and custody. The true father would have to sign this away as only one person can have these right (one father. One mother)

ScottGem · Dec 12, 2007, 11:25 AM

First, I would wait until you are married. Family courts prefer stable relationships with an adoption so they will be happier with you married.

What you will need to do is petititon in Family Court for the adoption. Part of the process will be to get the bio father to relinquish his rights. You are best off getting an family law attorney to prepare all the paperwork for it. It will then go much more smoothly. Plus the attorney will be able to answer all your questions.

oneguyinohio · Dec 12, 2007, 11:32 AM

My suggestion would be to wait until you are married. Use the advice given above as well.

It sounds like you have a great guy, and I hope all works out well. I can easily understand why he would be very attached to the child.

You have probably already done this, but just in case... Both of you need to look at the total meaning and consequences of the adoption as far as your involvements and responsibilities for the child until he is grown, even if for some reason you get a divorce down the road. I hope it never happens to you, but even if it does, the emotional attachement will still be there for all of you and the child will still need the father as a constant in his life.

I think you have a great idea, and wish you the best in happiness.