My husband is an alchololic. He has been for years. Also his drug of choice is coke. A few months ago he decided he was going to stop doing everything and only drink on the weekends. Well that didn't work because when he did he got so drunk he would get rediculously violant. I started looking into some treatment options, and found that there was nothing I could do. In my heart I knew that but I guess I just needed to hear it. If he wanted to go into a program, he had to make the apointment. He still drinks every night, whether he's at home or at the bar. I am the process of contacting lawers and making arraingments of getting away from him.

He hasent done any drugs for months now, sat night, he messed up big time! He thinks I can't tell when he's high. I can. Does anyone know if its correct that coke is not an everyday drug. I think addiction and I think of drinking everyday, or gambling everyday, or gettting high everyday. Needing it to function. For a while it was a few times a week, then once a week then every two weeks. The for a few months he was clean and he messed up the other night. It sucks because that's when he's actually nice to me. And inside I know that its just because he doesn't want to make me mad so he kisses my butt, but at the same time I know its wrong. I feel kind of bad because I know its an addiction, its an illness, so I feel bad, but I know there is nothing I can do. Anyone have advice for understanding an addiction?

I am so sorry for the position his illness has put you in. It is very hard for you I am sure.

To understand addiction you must know that it is a disease. It is a lifelong disease with no cure. The addict must want to get and stay clean for anything to help. Many times a stay in rehab does not work the first or second time.

If he is being violent you must get out immediately. If he is violent you must call the police call 911 if you have it in your area. It sounds as though he may recognize he has a problem, if only slightly. Sometimes a "shock to the system" will help the addict admit they believe they have a problem. And the police can be that "shock."

An addict does not have to use on a daily basis, that is a misunderstanding on the part of the sober world. It is an addiction that they cannot stop using permanently. There are addicts who drink or use only on the weekends for instance. But they cannot go the entire weekend with out the drug of choice, whether it be alcohol, coke, etc.

Unfortunately, you are doing the right thing by trying to get out if he continues to use. Understand that with sobriety can come a whole new set of problems also.

While I applaude you for wanting to stay by his side and get him help. You understand that he is the only one who can help himself.

You may try to find an Al-Anon group in your area who will help you understand the addiction better. They are all going through, or have been through, the same thing you are going through at the moment. They know the ins and outs of addiction.

I will keep you in my thoughts, good luck to you.

There is a thing known as binge drinking and drug taking. They are addicted but they can come off without the pain and suffering everyday users have, However it is an addiction and they need to get help.
You are doing the right thing in trying to distance yourself from him. I know it is a hard thing to do.
As you can see there are a lot of posts here just like yours. You are not alone.