I am 71 and lost my wife of 50 years in July of 2012. I live alone in my home and have a mobile home next door that my son (single & age 35) lives in. He is not employed and does an occasional yard job. He has lost 2 girlfriends who have left him due to his drinking and smoking and have caused me to lose hundreds of dollars. He often has other women and homeless friends come and go daily / nightly stay with my son. My son has now got another DUI and is subject to paying hundreds in fines and community service duties, and his driver’s license has been suspended. He is also subject to a 10pm curfew and never is home in time. I bought him a bicycle which he uses and drives to the near-by stores for beer and cigarettes'. The mobile home electric service and gas propane for cooking and heating is all in my name and I pay all the bills. I also am always giving my son money $20 every other day or so and I buy and deliver all food and all other supplies to the m/h for him. I live on SS and a small pension and still have to pay my large mortgage and many bills accumulated during my wife's fight with cancer. My son is belligerent with me saying he needs a woman (one of the 2 that left him) and will continue drinking and acting the way he does till he gets his woman back. My son also threatens to shoot himself and end it all. My funds are depleting and I do not know what to do. My son will not go to AA and won't talk to anyone. What can I do to get out of this mess?

Maybe give him tough love cut him off

He needs a dose of reality- jail.