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I drank a lot when I 22 - but not every day.

How old are you?

He defintely has a problem - that's way too much alcohol - "six beers a bottle of wine and a bottle of vodka in the same sitting" - That's almost lethal.

He definitely has a problem. I'd get with his parents again and advise them. It will be tough in the beginning - but once he sobers up and feels better he will thank you.

Will he listen when he is sober?

Hi,
No one will stop drinking until they, themselves, see that there is a problem.
Your friend may or may not have a problem.
If he can put down alcohol (which is anything with alcohol in it), and tell himself that will never drink alcohol again, then he doesn't have a problem.

If he can't tell himself that, then he probably does have a problem.
Normal drinkers can take it or leave it. Alcoholics cannot leave it; it is a disease.
Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) has groups all over the world; and it works if he wants it to work.
If he really does have a drinking problem, you, yourself, will NOT be able to do anything about it!!
He will have to decide for himself, if he wants to stop.
Please don't think that you will be able to change him yourself... you can't!
If you tell his parents, he will rebel against you, and anyone who says he has a problem.
If he doesn't stop drinking, please, please, make new friends, and find another boyfriend. If you don't, you will be the most miserable person in the world. The only group that can help you then will be AlaNon, groups for those involved with alcoholics.

Please do yourself a favor, and look at this site:

http://florida.ods.org/rx/topic.asp?...=1&tmp=1#pid22

It is only one of many, many devoted to Alcoholism. You can find many sites by going to http://www.google.com , and then in the search area, type in something like "forums for alcoholics", without quotes, then click on Search.
You will find many answers from recovering alcoholics and those who don't know if they are one or not.
Best of luck,
fredg

I'm almost 27. My boy friend can drink a lot and it doesn't seem to "effect" him. I usually can't even tell when he's drunk because he acts exactly the same as when he's sober. When I was 22 I drank all the time like a fish and then it was something that I slowly out grew. And I just got tired of blacking out and being hung over every day. His drinking doesn't seem to be controlling him and it's not like he's drinking every single day. It's not like he needs a drink just to get though the day. He's a really good guy that's really good to me and treats me right. I'm not going to "leave" him just because he might have a drinking problem. He's financially responsible and helps pay for every thing. This is his last day of college, he's graduating tomorrow and he works full-time too. He's very intelligent and successful. I'm just worried because I know that his Dad struggled a little with drinking and he seems to drink excessively some times. But don't we all drink a little excessively some times? On occasion I'll get "lit" if we go out to a night club. I'm reading way too much in to this as usual.