Originally Posted by
rackcity
Thank you all for your suggestions! You all are right! Never hurts to try. I guess I'll just keep trying!
I know this thread is bordering on two weeks old, but I get all fired up when I read something like this. It is just ridiculous how out of touch we become with our own self confidence. We blow things completely out of proportion and it turned into a three page diatribe about how you should or shouldn't ask for her number, and the method from which to do it.
Coming from a guy that has probably had more luck with women working at bars than any other women I fraternize with, next time just sit at the bar and ask for her number. I am not sure how many people who responded to this thread actually hang out at bars, but it is practically my part time job on the weekend. You cannot practice the adage "You have nothing to lose" enough. First of all, and I say this with all due respect to the suggestions you have received, I would never under any circumstance leave a bartender a card. That, more than anything, would come off as utterly creepy, especially in a city like Vegas where bartenders there get hit on more than strippers.
Now I know it may be unpopular of me to say, but don't be that nice guy that everyone just hopes will "win." This isn't a movie. I have seen women do some absolutely insane things when a guy shows enough confidence to talk to them like it is their lucky day. Not in some crude, pretentious manner, but in a way that makes the women feel like she isn't being bs'd.
The next time you are out at a bar, or anywhere, and you see a girl that you find attractive, talk to her. Within 5 minutes you should be able to get her number. If she says no and turns you down, so what? We are guys, and it is natural to get hot and bothered when we take a shot to the ego (believe me, I still get upset), but it is a learning experience and we move on. If you look a women in her eyes, and talk to her, they will pay attention 9 times out of 10. Eye contact, and a smile go a long way. Fake it for awhile if you have to, and soon you find yourself doing this automatically. Honestly man, I have had to learn to laugh at myself from some of the utter failures I've accomplished when talking to women... but if you don't try, you don't learn.
There is too much overthinking and too much puffery of circumstance. Who cares if you were just visiting? It doesn't matter! This is about chance and opportunity. Anyone who has been to Vegas has been in your shoes. Just because I got a phone number does not mean I am looking for a "hook up." This is the game, and you have to go all in sometimes to play it. I'm glad you at least did something! Brush it off, and move on to the next, as there will be plenty of chances to refine those skills. You're only 22 as well. I'm almost 10 years older than you and I still get nervous.