First of all, I see some red flags here. Let me try to gently point them out, remember I have had 4 kiddos, my oldest will soon be 21 and my youngest just turned 5.
Originally Posted by
Lacey19
It could be about a doctors appointment and he didnt come with me
Why does he have to go with you? I know that it is all exciting for you, and you want him to enjoy this time, but men don't like to go to the doctor, for themselves or anyone. Be truthful here when you think about this question I am going to ask.
How many men do you actually see in the OBs office when you go for your visits? The only visit he should really go with you would be the ultrasound.
Originally Posted by
Lacey19
didnt ask to come with me
Men don't think like this. They don't need someone to hold their hand when they go somewhere, so they don't think that we do in fact want them to go with us. He is just being a man.
Originally Posted by
Lacey19
or him winding me up and annoying me even though i told him to stop.
You need to stop and think about why he is winding you up. Is he really doing something different than before you were pregnant? Or are these pregnancy hormones getting you wound up?
Also, who are you to
tell him to stop? He already has a mother and he may feel like you are treating him like a child.
Originally Posted by
Lacey19
Will the arguing stop.
Most likely it will. But it will take some reflection on your part as to why this is really happening.
Originally Posted by
Lacey19
His now telling me that if we keep arguing like we are doing then he can't see us living together.
Do you blame him? Really? How would you feel if he made such demands on you all of the sudden?
Originally Posted by
Lacey19
I need all the support i can get i can't cope alone.
That sentence says it all to me. This is why I always advise that 2 people should be married for a few years before a baby is brought into the picture. See it is much easier to walk away if you are not married. Much harder and more expensive if there is a marriage license involved.
It takes a couple years to get to know each other and having a baby early in a relationship is always difficult.
Now, go to your doctor's appointments, he does not have to go with you to hold your hand. Just talk with him about the ultrasound, I am sure he will agree to go with you so that he can see the baby.
Also, he may be scared. Scared of being tied down for the rest of his life. Scared that he may not be a good father. Scared that he cannot provide security for his new family.
Men do not talk about their fears. As bad as it is, they hold their fears in.