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simple312 · Dec 30, 2011, 01:21 AM

When I first started dating my girlfriend 3 months ago, I asked how many boyfriends she has had. She said 1. I accepted it and went out with her.

Later on I got suspicious because she was always a bit quiet at times, she left her phone on the table so I read it and it says she had been on video call and chat, 4 times with her ex. I was beyond heartbroken. I confronted her and she denied it... She lied, but I said I saw it on her phone.

I forgive her.

So fast forward 1 and a half months and I get suspicious that some guy likes lots of her fb photo's. I ask if she has ever dated him, she says no, just dates, nothing happened.

Then she admitted 2 days ago they met at a party, had sex on the first date and slept together for a few months.

I was crying this time. My heart is taking a beating from the lies. I can understand if she slept with people before me, but why lie?

I asked her why she lied and she said she didn't want me to think she slept around and she lied so I would like her.

We've talked about it and fixed it, but it still hurts,

She texts me things like:

'Baby don't let me fall deep as well if you'll intend to let me go loveyou baby'

The guy text her a few days ago and she says she told him to go away and also she deleted his number.

I asked would she change her mobile number and she did it without question.

What do I do ?

Letsmakelove · Dec 30, 2011, 08:57 AM

Welp I would go with her almost every where you never know she could've told him to meet her some wher and she will give him the number there so they can interact on there phones again with out you knowing or DUMP HER and get someone NEW

Fr_Chuck · Dec 30, 2011, 10:44 AM

You stop worrying about the past first. Does not matter if she was with 100 boyfriends, her past is her past.

You were wrong in even asking her how many boyfriends, don't ever do that again, if she wants to tell you about the past, OK, if not, she has no obligation to do so. Should tell you to mind your own business.

She should leave you for looking at her phone.

Letsmakelove · Dec 30, 2011, 04:10 PM

Dump her but fr chuck is right you don't just go around looking in you girlfriends past and phone that is so wrong she should dump you I know I would

simple312 · Dec 30, 2011, 04:19 PM

She looks at my phone all the time, I've got nothing to hide. It's fine by me when she checks my phone

mmresd · Dec 30, 2011, 06:41 PM

You make a choice.

Without trust there is no relationship.

So you can either choose to trust her and STOP looking through her stuff, or you end the relationship.

vanheart · Dec 30, 2011, 07:48 PM

That was an insecure, stupid question to begin with.

What girl wants a guy that doesn't trust her?

The past is the past. Don't judge a girl. Judge yourself first.

How many girls have you been with? Did she ask?

How about playing it cool from now on?

I think you already got your lesson. Hopefully.

talaniman · Dec 31, 2011, 07:48 AM

You forgave her after all that she has done, so act like you meant it and build from now and forget the past.

Can you blame her for being secretive about the past, exes, or friends? If you cannot handle your own feelings you will never understand, and deal with the feelings of a partner.

Think before you act or speak, to avoid being impulsive, and wrong because you are hurt, angry, or confused.

JudyKayTee · Dec 31, 2011, 08:56 AM

Originally Posted by simple312

she looks at my phone all the time, i've got nothing to hide. it's fine by me when she checks my phone

This does NOT mean that it's okay with her when you check HER phone.

I couldn't live with your insecurities so I would be gone.

I don't know why where she's been, who she's been with IN THE PAST is so important to you. Maybe she realized what your reaction was going to be and so she lied just to avoid a confrontation - which she had anyway.