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    #41

    Sep 6, 2010, 12:06 PM
    We all go through this.
    I had many a sleepless night & woke up feeling terrible.

    Try & do some things for yourself.
    Whatever it takes to stay NC.

    You can do it. It gets better, believe me.

    Whatever you do, avoid her & don't ever contact her.
    It will only set u back to square one.
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    #42

    Sep 13, 2010, 12:52 PM
    God, how long has it been? Really it is suffering here. I am still not going anywhere yet. Just work, home and TV.
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    #43

    Sep 13, 2010, 08:42 PM
    Thanks guys, I am still sad and of course devastated by I am glad I am moving on. Although, occasionally I would send virtual emails to my other email account. I found it help. Anyway, I am schedule-ling to collect all my stuffs but will I be rude to ask my friend to collect on behalf because I don't want to see her and the family. I am afraid about the rushing old memories. What about it?
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    #44

    Sep 13, 2010, 09:02 PM
    Not rude at all. That's sticking with NC.
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    #45

    Sep 14, 2010, 05:58 PM
    Just spoken to few friends at the bar last night. They were disagree due to reason as "disrespect". I was like s***, do I need to hire a person to do that? So frusfrating.
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    #46

    Sep 14, 2010, 06:06 PM
    Don't listen to them. They aren't in the sh$$t.

    Is this urgent? You will find someone to get your stuff.

    Believe me. If you do it & get into the drama, you will regret it.

    You come first remember. You don't owe her or her family. Anyway, blood is thicker than water. Who do think her family cares about when it really comes down to it, you or her?
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    #47

    Sep 14, 2010, 10:49 PM

    Yes, is urgent and you are so right vanheart! I called her mom yesterday to inform the possibility that I am coming over and her mom is like, "there are things you have here? Ohh, okaaay"

    She is still her daughter no matter what. When we are still in "cooling off" the parents are so supportive of me. Guess what, that changed after the daughter brought in the new guy.

    Anyway, I do need to go for 2nd time to collect my automotives and machines off her garage, got to get a truck / pickup. *yawn*
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    #48

    Sep 15, 2010, 12:34 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by lamp_post View Post
    Just spoken to few friends at the bar last night. They were disagree due to reason as "disrespect". I was like s***, do I need to hire a person to do that? So frusfrating.
    You need some new friends.

    You owe her nothing. Not even the respect she never bothered to give you.
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    #49

    Sep 15, 2010, 01:15 PM

    So, I did got my friend to help and thank god only her dad was in and dad was very kind and understand the situation. Made me feel comfortable going in to get as many as my little car space allow.

    Surprisingly, I don't feel as emotional as I thought I would be. Maybe because I didn't even speak to her dad. Just HI, THANKS and BYE.

    Working hard to move on. Thanks for all the great people at AMHD!
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    #50

    Sep 15, 2010, 05:09 PM
    Congrats, my man. Good for you.
    Its those little hurdles that will make you stronger & proud of your commitment to healing.

    Let this be the last of it.

    On to more of the beautiful and rewarding world of NC...

    Whoo Hooo!!
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    #51

    Sep 15, 2010, 05:46 PM

    You are free to get a real life!
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    #52

    Sep 15, 2010, 05:48 PM
    Comment on talaniman's post
    The key word is free.
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    #53

    Sep 15, 2010, 05:59 PM

    Glad to hear it worked out. Stay strong!

    Happy New Life.
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    #54

    Sep 15, 2010, 06:37 PM

    Went through the boxes. Oh hell, she didn't return all my stuff. She just dumped in whatever in her way. Even her things are in the box. She is so blind now. =p
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    #55

    Sep 15, 2010, 08:13 PM
    Is it REALLY important?

    If not, let her have it.

    Stuff is stuff. People & piece of mind are way more important.

    Don't get too hung up on things that you don't need. Like her.

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    #56

    Sep 16, 2010, 08:31 AM

    Dear vanheart, yes those are important documents that I had put at her place for my convenience.
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    #57

    Sep 16, 2010, 05:46 PM
    Well, if you need them, then get them.
    With the same strategy. To avoid her and any drama.

    You don't want to keep doing this.
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    #58

    Sep 16, 2010, 06:05 PM

    Yes, exactly. In fact, I've made her a list. But she didn't honor it. It's up to 2 months now and it still sober =P
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    #59

    Sep 16, 2010, 06:10 PM
    Sucky.

    Guess you got to send another one or get it yourself.

    Give her a date when you are coming for it. When she's not there.

    Remember, you are no longer her priority.

    Get it over with once & for all. So you can move on.

    Or just forget it & move on.
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    #60

    Sep 19, 2010, 06:20 PM

    I am glad that to stick on hard NC. Thanks bunch! It is fading, I can feel it.

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