[Omamina]

My daughter's skin is very black she is 5 years old what I can do to her to lighter her skin ?

[Omamina]

Pleas help me

[J_9]

The only healthy thing you can do for a 5 year old is to keep her out of the sun.

[sara_uk]

Lol

[Golden_Girl]

Omamina skin lightening and tanning is a personal choice made by and for the individual who desires this. And should not be a choice forced upon a child, she is still young and enjoying her youth. She should not be clouded with changing her color because you desire her to do so, as she is unable to make this decision solely for herself nor persuading to her that this is best to do to her. Just give her a normal childhood and when she grows to become a responsible adult, let her decide to do this or not for herself. Please do not instill low-self esteem and confusion into your child, because this will definitely happen if you make the decision for her. Because she is too young to make this decision for herself.

Her skin should be left "as is" and only need to be taken care of using gentle cleansing soap, moisturizing lotion, shea butter, and natural oils, children's sunblock, not being forced to stay indoors all of the time, and acceptance. Parents also should not make the decision to straighten and fry their kid's hair either, this isn't the child choosing this.. but the parent. The parent should focus only on themselves if this is what they personally want to do, and allow their children to grow up to become independent-thinking, free-minded, adults. Because if you choose this for her, she may later severely resent you for doing this to her and choosing this for her. She may grow to have very bitter and ill feelings towards you for not accepting her "as is" and not respecting her wishes of what she may naturally want.

Although all parents of color do not rub crème on their kids' bodies for their own pleasures. But, many parents (if not most?) are responsible for changing their kids inwardly without consent. And are just as responsible for the following and should not be done:

1. Praise lighter-toned children and people over their own child
2. Complain to and about their children of how dark they are or are becoming
3. Speak and complain about how other people are getting darker
4. Give their children mostly toys and dolls that do not reflect them, and may inwardly pressure them to think they have to look like the doll
5. Give their children mostly pictures, art, cartoons, and other visual images that do not reflect them, may inwardly pressure them to think they have to look like the doll
6. Allow other people to make rude and judgemental comments about or to their own children
7. Use the words of persuasion to make their child want and desire what the parent wants and desires (even if it takes years in doing so).
8. Persuade to their children and hinting to make the change

I am not trying to sound harsh, but I just want you to seriously consider this before making a grave mistake. This is something for your child to decide to do with their own body when they become an independent adult. Especially when her skin is so young, you do not know how these things will react in your child's skin. Do not wait until your child becomes a teenager to do this either. Just make sure she remains a physically and mentally healthy human being, use gentle cleansing soap, moisturizing lotion, shea butter, and natural oils, children's sunblock.

[sara_uk]

Thanks golden Girl, well said, poor child I hope she does not grow with complex been dark! If her parent think that way! I am sure that feeling will be passed to her.

[Aurora_Bell]

I feel really sorry for this child.
Omamina, why would you want to lighten your child's skin?

Don't you want her to be proud of who she is? Don't you want her to grow up with the self esteem you obviously lack?

I am sorry if this is harsh too, but please, look at you daughter and see her for the beautiful little girl she is! Let her be a child! Let her worries be about what toys to play with or what cartoons to watch, not about people judging her for her skin color.

[mistyjane]

Omamina I'm really shocked right now!!
This must be a joke!
How can you just say: my daughter is dark, what can I do?
It seems like you think it is a disease or something that people here will understand. Just like"ok let's help her cause her child has a very serious problem"
I really feel bad when I come here and see this.
I'm so sad for this little girl.
If you have a problem with dark complexion it is yours not hers but obviously I'm quiet sure that when she grows she will feel bad cause she is surrounded by people who are really no good for her...
This is really too sad.Parents should protect and love their children and not think"OMG poor thing she's so black got to do something"
You have a problem not her.

[Yellowannabe]

The world is already set up to diminish and invalidate the worth of black women, please don't give it any un-needed assistance.

It's one thing to lighten yourself. Another to pollute a young child's mind with insecurities because of your own beliefs. For goodness sake, your daughter is all of 5 years old! Please let her enjoy 5 year old things.

Trust, the world will introduce her to the twisted "color caste" soon enough. Don't hasten the introduction. Support her, nurture her, and love her. Because at the end of the day, despite whatever skin color she possesses, she is your daughter.

God Bless & Please Reconsider.

[Omamina]

Thank you , I love my daughter so much donot think in other thing , She is my heart and cause for me in going live in this life. Mybe the problem is me , I so sorry

[Omamina]

Thank for every one, this the sound that I want to hear .

[imgorgeous]

Ensure your daughters skin is clear always !

Get her on a high Sulfur MSM diet regularly. In a few years time her skin will automatically lighten out! Theoretically speaking.

IM on MSM and it hasn't lightened me . But Im calculating that a child from young age on a high sulfur diet will have his or her melanin lightening and easing out over time with an MSM diet.

[mistyjane]

OMG this is not the purpose of the forum.
This forum is dedicated to people who want to lighten THEIR OWN skin knowing the risks and consenting to everything but the child is only 5 she's not even able to understand what all this is about.
Would you like somebody to force you to change your skin colour even if you're not aware of the risks. I don't think so.

[Fallen_angel_here_in_this_life]

Right. Now AltenWeg and JudyKayTee understands why I raised this question in the past. There ARE people who want to lighten their children's skin.

[imgorgeous]

Well if you have a high sulfur diet or a nutritious diet - there is nothing harmful to a child in that !

Having msm is recommended to children also from what I have read up.

No skin lighteners please. But a high sulfur diet is absolutely fine and healthy for a kid!

[Omamina]

Please tell me what's high sulfur diet?? Is it safe for my daughter??

[sara_uk]

Please tell me what's high sulfur diet????????Is it safe for my daughter????????

Please let her grow up as a child, when she grows up she can decide what she wants to do.

I don't buy that sulfur stuff anyway! The more you worry about her skin, the more you will pass that feeling to her. You might think just because we are here in this forum, we should understand you. We are adults we made our choice please let her have happy childhood.

[Omamina]

I agree with you. Thanks all your speech is true.

[n0username]

Why is she black? Is her father black? Are you black? If you wanted a light child, you should have gotten with a light partner. Now you are stuck with a dark child and it is not her fault that she is dark. Learn to accept her as she is. You created her, she didn't do it herself. It is not a wise idea to do anything with a child's skin. The best thing you can do is to keep her in the shade, but even this will give her a complex and make her feel that there is something wrong with her.

[Golden_Girl]

Seriously Omamina, don't do it.
Avoid even considering doing it. Because it's inhumane to do this to your child.

Everyone has given their honest opinions of how and why this will cause nothing but psychological and physical ruin. Nothing, and I mean nothing, good will come from doing this. Your still considering doing this to your child by now and you are unable to accept your beautiful child as she is, then therapy maybe something to seriously consider and the only option. We use this forum for ourselves, not how to physically change the children. That is morally wrong.

I can try and find some parental books for encouragement and I'll then post.