Here's what you've written so far in other threads:
15 Jun 2008 - I'm so worried when she goes out
I'm a young man in a relationship with a girl that's has a baby that I treat like mine her baby father nowhere around and so I stepped up to the plate and took on the responsibilities me and my girlfriend has an pretty strong relationship we've know each other for years and just started dating recently I love her with all my heart and she loves me but the problem is that she likes to go out with her friends all the time and it makes me so nervous because she also likes to drink she always tell me to trust her she doesn't want anyone else. I'm asking should I believe her and just trust her or should I be worried from this
17 Jun 2008 - known my girlfriend for 13 years
I've known my girlfriend for 13 years we used to be very good friends since we were children and we've always seemed to get together every summer when we were younger.but for like a 2 years I lost total contact of her then just recently I meet back with her and she had a baby but for some strange reason the baby attracted me to her more plus the babyfather is nowhere around. But we seem to really like each other and really seem happy with each other and we also love each other very much but I need to know if is true love
And now... why am I wrong for asking...
Hello otis
You don't have to start a new thread each time for advice on the same subject. If you don't like the advice and object to us asking you questions to get a clearer picture - that's YOUR problem. But please don't expect us to jump all over the place to get sympathy and soothing words from people who seriously intend to help those that come here with legitimate issues.
Your issue is,
in my opinion, that you are obsesssed with this girl even though she has had other men in her life and has a child from one of them. You jumped into her life at a time you thought advantageous to you by projecting the care you have for her on the baby in hopes that she will feel more for you than she does.
You are using this child to be near her and are so totally insecure in this relationship that you are going to drive yourself, her, and unfortunately the baby, nuts.
I strongly suggest that you grow up and look at life the way it really is, not the way you wish it would be. You are hurting yourself with this fantasy and I wish that you would stop acting like a doormat and then crying about it. Are you a man or a little kid? If you have to beg her for attention and put yourself so low in your self-respect, you need to think about seeing a professional for help.
Please stop running all over the place like this and stop begging her to be your ready-made family. This will not work out. A 13-year old crush does not mean anything if you have not grown up in all of these years.
Please, please, do a reality check and have a little more respect for YOURSELF!