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prettieprincess · May 5, 2008, 08:24 AM

My boyfriend and I have been together for just about 2 years now and I love him very much! He is great! I love our relationship. He is wonderful. I couldn't imagine my life without him by my side. But there is one thing he has a bad trust issue. He doesn't trust me at all. Well he says he does, but I don't think so. I have not done anything that would make him not trust me. Everyday he asks me if I have cheated or anything and I say no I have not. It was okay for a while,but now it is starting to make me angry and upset! I can't take hearing it everyday! I feel like I get accused every single day! I want to know how I can get him to change in that. It just seems like he wastes his time wondering about things. Please help I need so advice. I love him so much! But the trust thing is getting annoying!! :eek:

Morning Blaze · May 5, 2008, 08:27 AM

Do you know where this trust issue comes from?

talaniman · May 5, 2008, 08:45 AM

To begin with don't allow him to degrade you that way, and do not put up with that kind of behavior. He has a problem, you don't.

prettieprincess · May 6, 2008, 03:33 AM

I don't know where the issue comes from. I know when he accuses me it makes me feel like he is hiding something.

ordinaryguy · May 6, 2008, 04:34 AM

Originally Posted by prettieprincess

I don't know where the issue comes from. I know when he accuses me it makes me feel like he is hiding something.

Sad to say, but you may be onto something here. Habitually suspicious people usually are either scarred from some previous betrayal, or they're doing (or wish they were doing) what they accuse you of. I think you have to call him out and let him know in no uncertain terms that this is a deal-breaker and if he can't get over it, you're gone. And you have to have the guts to follow through if he doesn't.

Morning Blaze · May 6, 2008, 09:52 AM

This trust issues comes from somewhere it is possible he has been let down in the past or as ordinary guy puts it and which Ive learn from experience he could possible be doing what he is accusing you of out of person guilt. I know it sounds strange but it's a possibility. I agree with ordinary guy you will have to ball him out if you are wrong then you'll have to discuss where his trust issues stem for. As you say "it is starting to make me angry and upset! I can't take hearing it everyday! I feel like I get accused every single day! I want to know how I can get him to change in that. It just seems like he wastes his time wondering about things. " You will have to just bite the bullet and ask what trully is causing this because his behaviour cannot continue.

squeaks77 · May 6, 2008, 10:10 AM

The next time he asks you if he cheated, ask him if he cheated. And do it every time until he gets that it's annoying and demeaning.

sully123 · May 6, 2008, 01:31 PM

I agree, he might be doing something wrong himself. It's him I wouldn't trust, sounds like he is hiding something..