[alb2403]

Hi, I'm 27 yo guy. My posting will take you some time but please be patient to read it and give me some advice as I really need it.

I'd like to ask whether I'm be as I from time to time fantasize about naked guys and women and their respective sexual organs.

It seems I have a fetish of men in underwear and leather, though I don't like to be sexually involved with them. Well, last year, just once I had oral sex with a guy older than me, but I didn't like it at all and felt disgusted about myself (while he himself enjoyed it a lot.
With girls, it hasn't been so smooth either. Something would happen and we would break up without ever leading to the sexual act, though I was very much in love with them.

With males, I think it's more an attraction to their outer form or when watching gay porn. I mean it's more external. In any case, it would be just sex. Whereas with women it takes me more time as it is love. I mean I want something lasting and serious.

I also watch heterosexual porn, and the arousal is the same in both cases. But the fantasies about males - females also-keep returning to my mind. Is it normal at all?

Am I pushing my mind in the wrong way by watching porn? What about the fetish of males? Should I experiment with men just for sometime to see how things will be? I'm not in a relationship right now.

Thank you.

[chrissymarie]

Well if men have the ability to get you sexual aroused you are definitely bisexual.

You say you felt disgusted with the oral but if that was the case why did you go through with it. A straight male wouldn't even put hikmself in the position to have sexual relations with a male.

If you are alos attracted to females then you probably are bisexual. And there's nothing wrong with that.

I do believe porn can alter ones sexual fantasies. Porn can either be a good thing are a really bad thing, leave the porn alone if your having doubts about how its affecting you sexuality.

I wouldn't suggest you experiment with males unless you find yourself extremely sexually attracted to one. Don't just start doing it because you are curious.

No one is forcing you to choose which sexuality you want to be, just do whatever you feel is natural.

[Choux]

I think I have responded to two of your other posts.

I am concerned about your age. Why suffer in your indecision and confusion? A professional can help you get to the bottom of your fears and whatever. There is nothing wiser in the history of philosophy and religion than what was engraved on the Delphic Oracle and restated by Socrates... "Know Thyself".

My best wishes to you going forward, :)

PS I think porn is harmful to young and inexperienced men, but I don't have a problem if older men watch porn in moderation.

[Starbucks21]

You're a guy. You like to watch. You're programed that way

You're bi-sexual too. You just lean more towards women then men. Nothing's wrong with this and you're normal.

[andrewc24301]

Well, since you are not in a relationship, then you don't have to worry about hurting anyone or "coming clean" to a significant other.

I'd say you are in a prime position to sort this out at your own pace, and you don't have to answer to anyone but yourself.

What ever you do, just remember to be careful about it. A lot of STD's out there...

[alb2403]

I'd like to thank everybody for their valuable advice.

[nike 1]

Something I'd like to add, I would completely stop watching any porn at all. Give your natural sense it's own time to figure out what you desire.