Originally Posted by
EasyDoesIt
Thanks for everybody's help...I have decided now that I AM DONE WITH HER!!! No more texts and I am ingoring her for now out. If one day she wakes up and realizes it...Tough!
I tried too hard for too long and I def. didn't deserve that. It's gonna be hard because I miss the girl she use to be...I loved that person soo much and it hurts knowing I wont get her back...I'll keep everybody updated! I hope I can get through this!
Thanks
Ok, I guess we're ignoring this for now...
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Well, nothing has changed in a few days.
But if you can handle that fact then talk to her.
Just know this: NOTHING HAS CHANGED. And that's why there is NC. So, people can adjust to separate lives and get back on their feet.
So, is this more about you changing or her?
Is this just about her wanting you to change?
Or her need to be happy?
I just want to make sure I understand.
Maybe compromise with a short message back that explains that you know she doesn't like herself, and you support her, and are letting her have space because of it-without running to her side will calm you down.. and will make her focus and get her act together.
My fear is that a free 'hanging-out' session to talk about HER problems is cheating for her and you... UNLESS you just want to be friends. Or things were perfect otherwise.