How old is too old?

Homegirl 50 · Sep 15, 2007, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

DID I SAY THAT I DIDN'T KNOW THE POSSIBILITY OH HIM BEING HORRIBLE? NO I DIDN'T
DO YOU PEOPLE THINK THAT I AM NOT AWARE OF THESE THINGS
I AM JUST SICK OF HEARING ABOUT IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN
IT IS POSSIBLE TO MEET A GOOD PERSON ONLINE
MY MOMS FRIEND DID AND SHE WAS HAPPY UNTIL SHE MET SOMEONE ELSE

It's possible to meet a good person on line, but you must use your head and look for the red flags. You being 17 and he being 28 and not caring that you're a minor is a BIG RED FLAG.
I think you know what is right, you know this guy is bad news, I just hope you do the right thing.

GlindaofOz · Sep 15, 2007, 08:17 PM

Did you think that maybe there is a problem that you have to keep defending this? Does that not seem weird to you?

The truth of the matter is that you it is not a good idea for you to get attached to this guy until you know who he really is.

You never answered my two questions - how long has this been going on? Has an in person meeting been discussed?

Miss lovley · Sep 15, 2007, 08:19 PM

2 weeks and no I wasn't planning on meeting him for at least 6 er 7 months
I just wanted advice on how to fget him here when the time came

cerulean · Sep 15, 2007, 08:20 PM

Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

Did you think that maybe there is a problem that you have to keep defending this? Does that not seem weird to you?

The truth of the matter is that you it is not a good idea for you to get attached to this guy until you know who he really is.

You never answered my two questions - how long has this been going on? has an in person meeting been discussed?

Glinda, you crack me up!

I sense your earnestness and you are a very good person. You want to get at the heart of the problem. You remind me of myself, so I have to laugh. :)

But I wrote something related to this issue in this thread: Here is the link -

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...le-129948.html

GlindaofOz · Sep 15, 2007, 08:22 PM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

2 weeks and no i wasn't planning on meeting him for at least 6 er 7 months

I know that seems responsible but do you want to get attached to someone who may not be at all who you think he is? If you continue with this relationship I would recommend meeting within the first month. He if refuses you have your answer that he is not who he says he is.

GlindaofOz · Sep 15, 2007, 08:23 PM

Originally Posted by cerulean

Glinda, you crack me up!!

I sense your earnestness and you are a very good person. You want to get at the heart of the problem. You remind me of myself, so I have to laugh. :)

But I wrote something related to this issue in the other thread: Here is the link -

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...le-129948.html

Thank you! What a nice compliment!

Homegirl 50 · Sep 15, 2007, 08:26 PM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

2 weeks and no i wasn't planning on meeting him for at least 6 er 7 months
i just wanted advice on how to fget him here when the time came

Advice on how to get him here? He's grown he ought to know that himself. If your looking for advice on how to sneak and meet up with him, forget it. It is my hope, that you have come to the wrong place.

Wardo111 · Sep 16, 2007, 01:02 AM

It's either 20/25(your age - 20%=13.6yo/your age + 25%=21.25yo) or half your age + 7(15.5). Haha

Chery · Sep 18, 2007, 04:27 AM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

i'm done with this topic
i know all the safety precautions and what not
and i am sick of you people not trusting my judgement so i am unsubscribing to my own question

Guess what, I felt that way after a few days of reading your bits and pieces. You didn't even have the courage to come up with the whole story right from the start, so you were not asking for advice, you were looking for an argument, and baby.. you got one.

You probably don't talk to your parents much, beause I think you Always have to be right...

Get real!

Better luck next time.

Miss lovley · Sep 18, 2007, 10:56 AM

That's your opinion I don't think that you need to know all my business that's wwhy I didn't tell you

And about me not telling my parents it is not because I have to be right because my mother doesn't need to know everything that is going on in my life
And if if my mother dissaproved I would still do it
It is my life and if I choose to mess it up so be it I have to learn from my mistakes

ScottGem · Sep 18, 2007, 11:34 AM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

thats your opinion i don't think that you need to know all my business thats wwhy i didn't tell you

If you want the best advice, then you need to tell us the whole story.
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Originally Posted by Miss lovley

t is my life and if i choose to mess it up so be it i have to learn from my mistakes

But isn't that why you asked us? So you could benefit from our knowledge and experience and AVOID making a mistake?

Homegirl 50 · Sep 18, 2007, 11:41 AM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

thats your opinion i don't think that you need to know all my business thats wwhy i didn't tell you

and about me not telling my parents it is not because i have to be right because my mother doesn't need to know everything that is going on in my life
and if if my mother dissaproved i would still do it
it is my life and if i choose to mess it up so be it i have to learn from my mistakes

I'm assuming you still live in your mother's house and because you are a minor, if something happened to you your mother is still responsible and liable. So what you do is in fact your mother's business.
But you're sounding like a teenager who is having a tantrum because someone is not agreeing with what she wants to do. Bottom line is, we all know you will eventually do what you want, but you came to us with the question. You have received some good and sound advice and also some pretty understanding ears, I hope you do the mature thing and heed it.

Stringer · Sep 18, 2007, 11:57 AM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

thats your opinion i don't think that you need to know all my business thats wwhy i didn't tell you

and about me not telling my parents it is not because i have to be right because my mother doesn't need to know everything that is going on in my life
and if if my mother dissaproved i would still do it
it is my life and if i choose to mess it up so be it i have to learn from my mistakes

But some mistakes are beyond just "learning."

GlindaofOz · Sep 18, 2007, 12:08 PM

I would also like to point out that the "mistake" of meeting this guy could kill you or rape you or otherwise harm you.

Not a mistake I'd want to make.

Miss lovley · Sep 18, 2007, 03:26 PM

Originally Posted by ScottGem

If you want the best advice, then you need to tell us the whole story.
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But isn't that why you asked us? So you could benefit from our knowledge and experience and AVOID making a mistake?

No not at all I asked for your opinion just to see if you all thought ti was a bad idea
Eaither way I was still going to talk to him and I still am

Miss lovley · Sep 18, 2007, 03:27 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I'm assuming you still live in your mother's house and because you are a minor, if something happened to you your mother is still responsible and liable. So what you do is in fact your mother's business.
But you're sounding like a teenager who is having a tantrum because someone is not agreeing with what she wants to do. Bottom line is, we all know you will eventually do what you want, but you came to us with the question. You have recieved some good and sound advice and also some pretty understanding ears, I hope you do the mature thing and heed it.

I am doing what I want I am loving every second of it

Miss lovley · Sep 18, 2007, 03:32 PM

Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

I would also like to point out that the "mistake" of meeting this guy could kill you or rape you or otherwise harm you.

Not a mistake I'd want to make.

Well I understand my limits and I'm not going to cross them at this moment but a month from now who knowws

ScottGem · Sep 18, 2007, 03:50 PM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

no not at all i asked for your opinion just to see if you all thought ti was a bad idea
eaither way i was still going to talk to him and i still am

Yeah right! That is not why people ask questions on places like this. Either they are genuinely looking for advice or they are hoping someone will support what they want to do so they can feel better about doing it.

You obviously fall into the latter group. Since you had already committed yourself in your own mind, you had to deal with the almost universal advice against you.

Dnovy521 · Sep 18, 2007, 03:52 PM

Yeah I agree, you shuld only date men that are 3 years within your age limit. But once you are 18 u can date whoever you want

Homegirl 50 · Sep 18, 2007, 04:40 PM

Originally Posted by Miss lovley

i am doing what i want i am loving every second of it

Then I guess you're done here then Huh? I really do hope you're smarter than you are appearing to be. I hope this is just a stubborn streak and that you are the mature teenage girl you want us to think you are.
I sincerely wish you the best.