[sayLEE]

Moved to its own question


I love a girl so much, but I don't know why she doesn't love me at all. I try to talk to her, and be near her, but she doesn't care for me.

Why?

[talaniman]

I don't know how old you are, but just because you love someone with all your heart and soul, doesn't mean she will love you back the same way. Her feelings are her own, so since she doesn't share yours, leave her alone, regroup and accept that she doesn't love you, and heal, so you can move on, and find one who does.

You cannot control the feelings of others, only your own.

[indya]

It's not necessary that the one you love deeply will love you back too.

Just move on and leave her alone.

[VirtuousPlume]

If you show a girl you are readily available and affectionate, she will judge you objectively for your assets, like attractiveness and charm. Unless you excel in both, she will dismiss you, or worse, friend-zone you. The impression you need to convey is of someone strong and independent, even aloof. You like her, but you don't need her. You're cool, and she's nice, but she could be nicer. When she doesn't pay you attention overlook her. For example say hi to her one day, if she says hi nicely then smile to her, otherwise turn your attention away. If you can't picture what I'm talking about or it doesn't work, move on (but you may get tired first).