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MoodsterMan · Jun 8, 2009, 12:56 PM

My girlfriends friend is kind of a "loose" character and apparently doesn't like me very much.

You see my gf's friend goes to her camp ground every weekend and I have been told there are a lot of "cute/ hot" guys at the camp ground. My girlfriend is going to go up with her to the campground most of the summer. Now I didn't really care before but I have been told by my girlfriend that her friend already told her to break up with me. I have no idea why? And I recently got a text from her friend (that was supposed to go to my girlfriend but went to me) and it said " I have found your future soul mate! Hes hot, he plays guitar and sounds like Bon Jovi!" At first I just laughed but then I realized.. my girlfriend is going to be up at the campground for a long time with this chick. And I am sure she is going to be pressuring her to do this and that. I trust my girlfriend quite a lot but I am still feeling insecure about this situation.

What do you think? I know she is a bad influence on my girlfriend but I don't want to say anything cause its her best friend..

Justwantfair · Jun 8, 2009, 12:59 PM

Time to talk to your girl. The only answer is communication, that is how you make it through this time.

Good luck to you.

griffers90 · Jun 8, 2009, 01:17 PM

I agree you MUST talk to your girl. Find out how she feels about this. Most of all you must let her know you SUPPORT her if she needs to deal with this "friend" of hers. If your girlfriend is a loose charcter though you may not be able to prevent what happens over the summer. Still. Talk to her tell her you're worried and just keep communications open. That is the only way to survive this trial intact. However you may need to consider what you'll do if the worst does happen and she finds someone else. But if when you talk give her a note from me "If she cares for you do not give in to peer pressure I did and it nearly wrecked my life. I was lucky not many people have such good friends that will pick them up after such a bad break up"

Good luck and I hope this manipulative "friend" of hers doesn't cause any problems x

I wish · Jun 8, 2009, 01:28 PM

Communication is key.

Furthermore, even though her friend told your girlfriend to break up with you, your girlfriend hasn't done it, so that should tell you that she might not listen to her friend anyway. But you should still clear the air with your girlfriend.

talaniman · Jun 8, 2009, 01:49 PM

Just me, I wouldn't let your g/f's hater friend, break my trust for her. Give your g/f the email, and let her deal with her friend, and say nothing else.

Willing to bet the email wasn't an accident, or mistake, but the attempt to cause trouble.

MoodsterMan · Jun 8, 2009, 01:54 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Just me, I wouldn't let your g/f's hater friend break my trust for her. Give your g/f the email, and let her deal with her friend and say nothing else.

Willing to bet the email wasn't an accident, or mistake, but the attempt to cause trouble.

She got the email as well.. and that is what I am doing. I trust her, and love her very much. I have no idea why her friend said to break up with me. She has a boyfriend and I am just thinking that my girlfriend is going to get lonely and with her friends help etc..

I think I am thinking too much and I care but I also don't. Its kind of like "I am so done with this bull" So I am starting to not care what my girlfriend does and just saying to myself that she is faithful. IT doesn't always work unfortunately.

I hate talking about this kind of stuff with her, because it always gets her upset with the "you don't trust me?" and "stop being insecure" etc..

talaniman · Jun 8, 2009, 02:19 PM

That's why I would say nothing to her about it at all. Just so she knows you know about her so called best friend and her ways.

Your relationship is not the issue between you, but what she does about her friend is best dealt with by her, in her own way.

Don't let the hater drive a wedge between you.

I wish · Jun 8, 2009, 02:27 PM

If you've already had the "lack of trust" and "insecure" conversation with her, then move forward from that.

You got to trust her. You guys already talked it out. Now it's on you to accept it.

Don't create trouble when there was none to start with.

MoodsterMan · Jun 8, 2009, 06:02 PM

Originally Posted by I wish

If you've already had the "lack of trust" and "insecure" conversation with her, then move forward from that.

You gotta trust her. You guys already talked it out. Now it's on you to accept it.

Don't create trouble when there was none to start with.

Exactly what I was thinking, no point in beating the old cat.

scott_1976 · Jun 8, 2009, 06:12 PM

Be careful here, you can end up looking like a crazy jealous boyfriend and make her friend have even more infuence over your girlfriend!