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showtyruz · Mar 19, 2007, 04:52 AM

I love my boyfriend but I am afraid if he leaves me or gets snatched away from me

JoeCanada76 · Mar 19, 2007, 04:55 AM

I think that maybe you should get a restraining order on yourself. To prevent you from seeing him. You need to see a counselor because being so jealous and so obsessed will only hurt you and everybody around you.

The more jealous you become, the more obsessed you become then I would say there is a 100 percent chanch you will push this guy away and for good. Into somebody else's arm. This has nothing to do with him, but with you.

So Counseling if you truly want to figure out what is causing you to feel so jealous. Get to the root of the problem and hopefully learn to deal with life situations differently then you have.

Best of luck.

Joe

tishee_76 · Mar 19, 2007, 05:31 AM

Hi showtyruz

I admire your admittance, you are whole lot closer to figuring out a solution if you can recognise a problem..
Jesushelper76 gives you a great answer and I would suggest for you to be so wound up about it, the problem could be deeply seeded.. so it may be hard to deal with it yourself..

As for your relationship at present..
You really must treat others the same way you would like to be treated, even when it's hard to do..
I believe with introspection you will figure where your problems stem from and fix them instead of band-aiding the symptom..

You have looked for answers and that's the hardest step sometimes, I do wish you all the strength you need to take the next step, counselling..

talaniman · Mar 19, 2007, 07:00 AM

Glad that you recognise the problem, and getting help to guide you through the process of dealing with it, is the way to go.

robertsqueen · Mar 19, 2007, 07:19 AM

I too am glad that you recognize the problem and want to get help. I agree that you should see a therapist or counselor and try to get to the root of the problem. It sounds like you feel a little insecure about the relationship and how he feels about you. Before I met my husband I too was insecure in relationships. Maybe you need to take some time away from him to figure out why you need him so much.

louise1200 · Dec 15, 2008, 07:16 PM

Im the same with my boyfriend sometimes, I obsess over him being friends with his ex, even though he spends most off his time at my house, I obsess over silly things, but mostly I'm scared off someone taking him away from me, I've been hurt in the past and I think because off this and because my boyfriend is the most amazing guy, I already know I want to marry him, but I do get very scared in case someone takes him off me, then I go defensive and get silly, I even worry if he doesn't text me for a day. But its not that he doesn't care, its just he's busy. Its hard I know, but you just have to hang on in there. Goodluck x

kctiger · Dec 16, 2008, 06:58 AM

You got to learn to love and value yourself. I think once you can truly do this you won't be afraid of someone being "taken" from you.

louise1200 · Dec 16, 2008, 01:15 PM

You know what I totally agree, sometimes its more about you than your boyfriend,

Badchoices · Sep 16, 2011, 08:55 PM

I am obsessed so I sympathize with you. I have a girlfriend. I am also married. So I am a real dilemma. I fell in love with my girlfriend and she originally said that we would move together. She changed her mind and doesn't know what she wants and says that sometimes she loves me and sometimes she's not so sure. I nearly lost everything over her. Now, this weekend, I told her we would meet on Monday to talk about all of this but that we both needed a break and not to text or to call each other. So we haven't in the past 8 hours, but now I feel like I am withdrawal from drugs. I want to write or call, but know that I shouldn't. The sorry part is that I know I care for her a lot more than she cares for me and I wonder if she is fooling around with anyone else. Anyone contemplating having a girlfriend on the side, do yourselves a favor... don't. It's not worth it. It's painful.