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Originally Posted by
N0help4u
I wouldn't want my guy cheating on me! It's me OR don't let the door hit you in the butt and don't come a-knockin' EVER again if you go for someone else!
My question is this, though:
Does monogamy mean ONLY one person EVER?
Does that mean you marry the first person you sleep with, and you are only EVER with that person?
Or does it just mean not "cheating"?
Frankly, I give thanks on a regular basis that I didn't marry the first guy I slept with. Or the second. I loved them, in a way, at the time, but it's NOTHING to what I feel for my husband, and frankly, I would have been unhappy with BOTH of those guys in a lifelong situation.
Can any of you that are claiming monogamy is the best way say that you ONLY slept with your spouse, EVER?
Then, too, you have "serial monogamists"---people who only sleep with one person at a time, but those relationships are short-lived and generally only about sex--not about the caring and understanding and respect that goes with a deeper relationship.
And what about those guys that break up with a girl that loves him, JUST so he can pursue another woman, and then comes back to her--and she TAKES him back? Is that another form of monogamy, since he didn't technically "cheat" on her?
If you're defining monogamy as one-woman, one-man, until death do you part---well, then I'd BETTER not hear you giving advice to someone to leave their partner because then divorce/breaking up isn't feasible unless you ALSO advise them that they should remain abstinent for the rest of their lives.
As I said before---I need a definition of what "monogamy" is before I can tell you what I think about it.