[88tulips]

My children's father left when they were young & unfortunately, I married an abusive man who became verbally abusive after two & I endured it for 8 yrs.

The worst however is that, my daughter started acting like him a yr. Later and has gotten worse over the years. I thought this temper was from 2 head injuries initially till my ex- indicated she picked up his personality!

She is in the military and comes home seldom as she lives out of the country (good thing). Each time she come's home though, she crushe's me so badly and blames all problems on me and twists all stories around! My head spins from how she changes stories!! She was home on leave for her brother's wedding and left after 5 days---one of the things she told me was that she only likes to hang out with "people" that don't fight with her (I'm just the mom-remember--a nothing) I hate fighting, never fought back with my ex- as I would get it physically and was so very close to my own mother just the same as my sister.

At my son's wedding. She had him pose with his wife & his aunt on the other side of the divorced family & of course--she posted this to facebook---in which other's assumed that my son was the aunt's son also. None with my on my son's wedding day photo's!



I pray alway's to have my life taken away from me from this torture & haven't taken care of my health in the last 7 yrs as I hope to die early. Too much pain from her. I know I haven't really don't you much--just the history-basically. Any answer's? ---she is 30 yrs old

[Fr_Chuck]

No, you don't die, you go on and enjoy life, just don't let her come visit, let her know SHE is not welcome in YOUR home, you take control, don't allow her to do what she wants, If you wanted photos another way, why did you not have them done. You can't control what a fool does on Facebook, unfriend her and stop looking.

[jenniepepsi]

How old was she when you married her step father?

[momstears]

Thank you for your honest reply! Here is the deal, he is not on drugs he is really into working out and his body, but your right, he has mood changes that are really serious. I tried to get him help in the past but he always managed to turn the people against me! He is a street Angel house Devil. Recently, he has even gotten worse and I realize that I have to make him leave. But, I worry that I will get a restraining order that gives him time to move out and I will still be stuck living with him after he is served. This is what happened the last time I made him leave. I was given a restraining order but he was allowed to stay for 30 days! What kind of protection is this? If he is going to really flip out it will be when he is served.. I do not want him living with me for any amount of time. He has to leave and right away! Please feel free to advise.

[Fr_Chuck]

She learned how to behave from watching her step fathre, You don't talk to her, so move, move by yourself and get over it and move on.