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No Contact, as Wondergirl pointed out, is about you healing and moving forward with your life.
It is not a game.
It is not a method for 'getting' an ex back.
It is not a way to purposely and with intent cause pain to another person. Pain comes with a break-up. It is unavoidable. What is avoidable is making it hurt worse for her and yourself.
NC is a way to give you both time to heal instead of digging at sores or trying to walk on a fractured leg. NC is a cast. You use it until you are healed and no longer need it.
NC is to help you reduce the confusion you feel by limiting the input of the ex. No false hopes. No 'will we-won't we.' No 'what does she mean by.. '
NC is for letting go of the past. It is for accepting that things cannot and will not be the same again.
If you are hoping to use it to get her to contact you, then you are using it for the wrong reason.
If she is using it to keep herself from contacting you so that she can heal, then she is using it correctly.