Originally Posted by this8384

I'm sorry for the lack of compassion, but you need to hear the truth:

Kick his sorry butt out. 8 1/2 years or not, this guy's a deadbeat and not someone you're going to want your child around. He doesn't care now and odds are he's not going to care in the future. He got 2 other women pregnant and didn't want those kids; why would he suddenly become responsible and involved? You deserve so much better and so does your child! You are not garbage; stop letting him treat you that way!