My boyfriend is going through the same stuff. His ex hates us for being together and for being engaged even though she claims to be engaged to her ex whose in prison. She says she's going to take away any visitation rights he could have because they haven't gone to court yet for the kids. There's two of them and she lives in another state. She claims she has evidence that will keep him from getting visitation. She's been impossible because she's upset he didn't marry her when she got pregnant. He didn't love her didn't want to be with her but stayed because they had kids but he was tried of being unhappy so he left her and I got with him. I've known him for 7 years. We've been together for 10 months. She took the kids, moved out and left the state. He hasn't been pushing for visitation yet because he's in a tight finanacial situation. Any time she gets mad at me or him she sends ignorant test messages about them getting a new daddy, and how he'll never see the kids again. She lives with his dad (he wants to keep an eye on his grandkids because he lives in thesame state as them), and is supported by the govt. And his dad, goes to school but has no job! We can't take it anymore! He's thinking about signing away his rights because if he's never going to see them and be forced to pay childsupport he thinks he would be better off to sign away his rights and just wait till the kids come looking for answers to their moms bad statements about him and explain what their mother did because she was jealous and selfish. I want to know where I can find every thing there is to know about signing away rights to a child. Also doesn't the mother have to approve of the father signing away his rights to the child.