I agree with Scott. AS for help, there are organizations out there, counseling through a clinic or mental health center, books, magazines, etc. Her Father being gay does not mean he does not love his daughter. It also does not mean his whole life was a big lie. It could well be her Father truly loved his wife and had all the best intentions with the marriage. We do not know. Of course, it could also be the opposite. What is important is that his daughter understands that he loves her.