Hmmm I don't know if I agree with any of you'r answers. I have read a few questions on here about this and everyone is telling the one doing without the one they love touching them loving them etc. to "Go jerk off" or "Rub one out"! Excuse me why do that. The one having the problem isn't doing wrong if they just aren't feeling it (to tired, depression, new job) whatever it may be but you can not just say go tend to yourself every single time someone is wanting their SO!!!! There has got to be a medium (meeting place) COMMUNICATION PEOPLE!!!!! Be open, be honest and loving about the situation. Whatever side of the fence you are on. It is very hard when you are made to feel you'r "SO" isn't wanting you the same anymore. But "No" do not go jerk off or rub one out. Sit down and talk. If you keep it one sided ....It will fail!