Originally Posted by Dreamsfade
I think if you're in a relationship it's disrespectful to lie to your partner about watching porn when you know it upsets them. I like how you guys use the excuse "guys have to watch porn" there's nothing that makes you guys do it, you choose to do it. Do you not feel degrading jacking off to some porn star when you have a beautiful loving girlfriend who is willing to be sexual with you.... I don't understand that mindset. If you want to live in that fantasy world then don't date. Don't make the girl suffer because of your own selfish reasons of pleasuring yourself. No girl derserves the right for the man that they love to be pleasuring himself to another women.
Its disrespectful to try to dictate to another adult what they can and can't watch....or when. (male or female)
If you have self esteme issues....then deal with them....blaming your problems on other people only alienates them, and it makes you look more self centered than you are. If you have issues...#1 face up that you have them, and #2 Work on them...not waste time making everyone else dance around the issues you don't want to deal with.
The girl is going to suffer because she refuses to face her problems...and those problems will only get worse because she refuses to deal with them face to face.
WHen this boyfriend gets fed up and leaves....and the next one...and the next one over the same reasons...her lashing out at others rather than dealing with her own personal issues....then who is to blame? She is, not an endless string of men who eventually tire of dealing with someone who blames her own problems on everyone else.
Guys LIKE to see naked bodies.....deal with it...from your own arguments why do women have to be such drama queens adn prima donnas....and require things like foreplay , wining and dining...etc? Well, maybe its because women are not wired the same way men are....and human evolution isn't going to change overnight because you aren't happy with how things are....that means you learn to accept others how they are....and learn that everyone isn't subordinate to your whims.
And by your own words....if YOU want to live in a fantasyworld.....don't date.
And women by their very nature....are the ones that spend the most time in a fantasy world....Romance novels...chick flicks......those are all to the female mind the same as porn is to a guys mind. Those cultivate a scenareo in the mind that is a fantasy......porn for a guy is pictorial.....it doesn't need a fantasy....its there in color.
How old are you anyway.....it sounds like its very young. and by very young...I mean you haven't gotten close to the big 30 yet, and sounds more like a very young adult, thats late teens or very early 20's.....
I've personally walked out on more than a few women over the years over far less controlling behaviour. She isn't my mother....and shes not my boss. Equals aren't in a position to be bossing the other around. Nor should they be. You deal with people as they are.....because #1. you aren't going to change them....and #2. They are going to develope very real resentment towards you if you boss them around.
My wife is my partner....my equal....she's not my boss, parol officer, or Warden.