Motor,
I won't bore you with my story but allow me to say please, that I can relate to much of what you have posted here.
God or Sam or the BIg Guy is not against you, it only feels that way right now.
Fr Chuck makes a good point, these things don't happen suddenly, our eyes are closed.
When you've shared your life with someone you don't expect them to act this way. I certainly didn't. And got left with $30,000 of debt and part of that was IRS, and those guys don't play nice.
Uprooted my children and had to make it own my own with 2 kids and most of my paycheck going towards bills that were not even mine.
What made the situation so bad is that my children suffered, because I couldn't afford the things they wanted and sometimes the things they needed.
My point is I know how hopeless feels. I know how it feels to go to sleep and wish you never woke up.
But now my children are grown, I have a beautiful grandchild. And for the most part my debt is under control. It still gets tough, but we make it.
And I have a wonderful man in my life, I sure am glad that I woke up all those days.
Life is ever changing and sometimes we lose our way, that doesn't mean that the path isn't still there.
I do hope that you have good counsel/lawyer for your legal problem.

Keep us posted on how you are doing and best wishes to you