What you have posted here is most definitely not the whole story. Here is what you posted on the other thread http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-s...l#post2031769:

I've been married for about five months and still hadn't had sex with my wife at all. She still a virgin and is so scare of penetration. This is making me not to desire her and not want to even attemp sex. Plus there is no fire or friskiness in bed from her it hurting our marriage because I'm not in as much lately.

What does "because I'm not in as much lately" mean?

It would appear she needs to see (minimally) a Physician, perhaps a counsellor of some sort - as do you if this lack of sex has not caused you to seek professional help AND you think her fear makes her "not the one."

How does being Apostolic enter into this?