Originally Posted by J_9
In my opinion this man is a slug! He cheated on you while you were pregnant, he was cheating on you when you got married, he asked you to keep your marriage a secret?
What the h3ll was that about?
He beats you and you think he is generally a nice person? I repeat, he is a slug.
You need to leave this slug. Take the children and go. Do not stay for the sake of the children because they will grow up thinking that this is the way relationships work. The boys, if you have any, will grow up to cheat, lie and beat up their women. The girls, if you have any, will grow up and think it is okay for their men to cheat on them and beat them up.
You and your husband are the role models of these children. Children learn by how they are raised.
Get a restraining order so that he cannot touch you again, put his things out, and change the locks. Then run, do not walk, to an attorney.
Couldn't spread it J but this advice is even better than what I just said. DO you live in a state where a domestic violence complaint mandates an automatic arrest? If so, have him locked up, then while he's in the slam, don't bail him out but do as J says ; put his things out on the curb and change the locks.