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    Oct 24, 2008, 11:53 PM
    Is there a law against a 12 year old boy having sex with my 12 year old daughter?
    My 12 year old daughter was conspiring with her 12 year old boyfriend to have sex (intercourse). Fortunately we found out in time and are now restricting her freedom appropriately. However, the mother of the boy would like him to apologize to us (the parents) and she wants me to put the fear of God into him.

    So I would like to know, if the 12 year old was successful in having sex with my 12 year old daughter could I charge him with anything? Would he be committing any crime? I've tried searching on the internet, but most Age of Consent information deals with a 3 year gap in age. Surely, there has to be some law in Texas that protects children in the same age group from having sex; while I know it's not likely practical or inforceable. Just the same if there is something, I would like to know what it is so I can scare this boy enough so that he has the rest of his childhood and teenage years not trying to impregnate other girls.

    (I know, I could scare him with yelling, threats of violence and being Texas show him my
    Gun if I owned one. Seriously though, I want to steer this boy in the right direction: away from my daughter, and away from other daughters as far as sexual activity goes.)
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    Oct 25, 2008, 05:37 AM

    First no , his mother and father needs to put the fear of God into him, your threats toward a 12 year old child could get you into legal trouble if he reported you to children and family services.

    The issue here is that the boy doing it is also a minor, and yes it is illegal but he would not be tried into adult court but Juv court,
    They could declare his parents unfit or order him into some program or just do nothing.
    Juv court does not work like adult court,
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    Oct 25, 2008, 06:39 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by TexasParent View Post
    My 12 year old daughter was conspiring with her 12 year old boyfriend to have sex (intercourse)....... I want to steer this boy in the right direction: away from my daughter,
    Hello Parent:

    Couple things... Sex is natural. The boy did nothing wrong. And, if the boy DID, so did your daughter. She AIN'T innocent.

    excon
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    Oct 25, 2008, 03:51 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by excon View Post
    Hello Parent:

    Couple things.... Sex is natural. The boy did nothing wrong. And, if the boy DID, so did your daughter. She AIN'T innocent.

    excon
    I agree, my daughter isn't innocent anymore (despite our efforts to monitor her relationship, etc.) and she is equally responsible for her actions.

    I'm not sure I was clear, the mother of the boy wants:

    a) To have her son take responsibility for his actions and apologize to us.

    We agree that this would be positive for him and will arrange a meeting so that
    he can apologize to us.


    b) The mother also asked me to put the fear of God into him from the father of the
    Daughter's perspective. Sort of present him with a victim's impact statement on how
    His actions have hurt my daughter and our family.

    I am merely looking for some sort of legality that I can present to him that will cause him
    Extreme pause for repeating this type of behavior in the future. If someone can help it would be appreciated.

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    Since no one has yet described a law that I can use I will add another element to see if there are laws covering it.

    In conspiring to have sex with my daughter this boy sent her a video from his cell phone
    That shows him naked stroking his genitialia. Can a minor be charged for the distribution of
    Child pornography even if he is the subject in the video? Is there a law about a 12 year old corrupting another minor?
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    Oct 25, 2008, 04:13 PM
    Okay, first of all, there is no law against 2 12 year olds having sex. Morally yes, but legally no.

    Child pornography has more to deal with adults distributing it rather than minors.

    Now, as a parent of a teen myself... Your daughter was conspiring also, are you going to make her apologize to his parents? She is just as guilty here.
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    Oct 25, 2008, 04:25 PM

    Assign each of them to carry a 5# bag of sugar around for a week (to represent the baby they could easily produce). The bags have to be accounted for any time a parent asks. The parents will have to have a plan in place regarding what they expect for the care of the bag and if anything happens to it.

    Or find a school that has a Baby-Think-It-Over (The Baby Think It Over infant simulator) that the two kids can share for a week. (Or even TWO dolls, one for each.)
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    Feb 28, 2009, 02:34 PM
    Well, I think that
    1.Your completely over-reacting! Sex is normal, even for a 12 year old, and although it is wrong it is also natural for them to be curious. They both are either rebelling against rules, or don't know enough about it! Try talking about it to her instead of punishing and getting on at her too much, or it will just make her want to rebel more. Take my advise, I am a teenage and was not 12 too long ago, and I'm also doing a degree in enough wich covers this stuff.
    2. there is no law against it and so nothing that you can do, and it is not up to you to talk or scare or do anything to the boy, as he is not your responsibility its his parents/guardians responsibility... and your daughter is just aas much to blame that the boy, and so I really think that if the boy is going to apologize to you then your daughter should apologize to the boys parents! Although I don't think either of them should be apologizing as I think it either

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