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  • Feb 7, 2008, 06:21 PM
    iluvhawaii
    I'm 15 and I just started dating a 17/18 year old.is that OK?
    OK, so I am about 15 and 7 months old and I just started dating a guy that just turned 18.. I know that we can't have sex.. but can we still be intimate and hold hands/kiss? Or would that put both myself and him in a bad position? Is it against the law?
  • Feb 7, 2008, 06:33 PM
    daisy27
    That is not a good situation for you. He is almost 18, I'am sure he is going to want a sexual relationship. You should wonder why he wants to date so much younger. [NOT SAYING YOU'R NOT A GREAT PERSON} He should find some one closer to his age as should you. When he turns 18 it will be against the law for him to have sexual relations with you. Even if you don't plan on having sex, people start kissing and touching and get caught up in the moment. You should not put yourself in that situation. Sorry, I just noticed you said he was 18. You need to stay away from him for your own safety, you are young he could be trying to manipulate you.
  • Feb 7, 2008, 06:37 PM
    InkedCellist
    I disagree. This kind of situation really varies from couple to couple. Some 15 year-olds are very mature just as some 18 year-olds are very immature. I don't believe there is anything illegal about your relationship as long as it doesn't turn to sex. People get too caught up in age differences now, and yours isn't that large of one.
    I say you just have fun and enjoy it as long as he is good to you!
  • Feb 7, 2008, 06:49 PM
    daisy27
    I do agree with inked cellist that age really is just a number and that some times people just fit despite age differences. But I feel that theory applies to women and men, not young teenager and man.
  • Feb 8, 2008, 04:53 PM
    N0help4u
    It also depends on your state law. You might want to check with it.
    Some states you have to be at least 16 and can't be with anybody more than four years older than you. Some states he can get in trouble if he is over 18 and you are under 18.
    So you need to check with your state law.
  • Feb 9, 2008, 09:30 PM
    mummy-duck
    I have been in your situation before.. remember if you do more then kiss and hold hands you most probably will regret it due to you are growing up to fast.

    Just remember to trust your instinct and let him know how you feel OK
    All the best with it OK
  • Feb 25, 2008, 04:59 PM
    gl4mor0u5x
    I can really relate to disz situation; I'm 14 going to be 15 this June but I am extremely mature about the decisions I make, and plus when someone looks at me they think I'm 18. But I fell in love with a boy who is 17 that's going to be 18 this march and soon will be going to college. Just recently about last Saturday his parents were to meet mine and that was the day when everything turned upside down, his parents decided to not let him see me again and my parents told me to stay away from him. This guy isn't bad at all he gets good grades and always listens to his parents, people say we were the best couple ever. Right now we are the point that we don't know what to do, we love each other but the law doesn't let us. And this suck because I believe that age really is nothing but a number
    Because I maybe young but I've put up with more things than any full grown adult
  • Feb 25, 2008, 07:04 PM
    jolienoire
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by iluvhawaii
    ok, so i am about 15 and 7 months old and i just started dating a guy that just turned 18..i know that we can't have sex..but can we still be intimate and hold hands/kiss? or would that put both myself and him in a bad position? is it against the law?




    The best advice I can give is to take your time on this, you are yet still young and yet at a tender age, and there really is no rush... I can understand why young girls date older guys, the thing about this is he may in fact be experienced while you are not, you may just want to keep it the way it is.. and again there is no rush and I do feel some sort of way about dating an older guy as I have experienced that I don't want to categorize all men/boys but I would like to say that eventually at some point (again not all) will want to take it to the next level.. However if you like him and he likes you and is willing to wait it's okay but as long as he is respectful and can wait until you are at a mature age when you are ready... It's very tough at 15 to separate love from enfactuation and to know what you really want... but take your time.. and if he loves and respect you enough he would understand.

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