What to look at it very literally.:o

worthbeads

Perhaps you need to check out this site:

Getting pregnant: How babies are made

It gives an overview of how babies are made :)

I think that you should talk to her and see what she wants to do. She may be 14, but in this situation she has they say so as to how to go about this. It would be wrong for you to contol the situation as parent's so often do. She may already know that she is a bit young for a child, but don't through her mistake in her face. Maybe she really liked the guy she did it with, so this resulted in pg. Too many times parent's want to yell at their kids for these things, instead of yelling (that woln't change the situation) just deal with it. BUT anyway, it's up to her to chose what to do. Personally I think abortion is wrong, she did the deed and she and her boyfriend will need to fess up to it. It's an easy way out to take ''the pill'' or etc. If she feels she can't care for this child properly then she should give it up for adoption. Some loving family will take care of it. However if your family and her grow's to love this new life, then keep it in the family. Babies are a joy to have. She will need to get a job and NOT make you or her father etc pay for every last thing. That would be wrong. In this case it is NOT your job to 100% care for this baby. It is your daughter's. I wish you luck and hope that some of my advice is useful.

I agree with all of you that suggest that the mother should sit down and talk to her daughter. I guess I should have explained myself better. In situations like this, the communication chain was broken long before this happened. If it had been in place before and there was good communication and understanding between mom and daughter wouldn't you think that the daughter might have come to mom and talked about her options because she was being sexually active. Then they could have discussed ways to protect herself. I know I am trying to put the cart before the horse here now because what's done is done. But I think mom needs to sit down and let her know very clearly that these are the options, let the daugther pick one. I do however think keeping the baby and raising it should not be one of those options.

Yeah, I get it already, it was a joke! :mad:

In my opinion I don't support people that get abortions. Actually, I don't support people that get pregnant when they're young and unmarried. Its not right. Its gods child and it deserves to live and he also says not to get pregnant while you're unmarried but obviously she's way to young to have kids. Something might happen to her. I'm not saying get an abortion but is there any other way out for a 14 year old? She might not agree and want to have the child but I think this might be something you should tell her to do. Something might happen to her if she goes on with this and you don't want that.

Hope I could help!

I have to say, this is a subject that tugs at my heart for many many reasons. However, it yanks on my brain even harder. This is just my humble opinion so please refrain from getting angry or getting your panties/boxers in a bunch. I think that she's 14, a child, and I never let my children make life altering decisions. She got knocked up because she made a foolish, immature decision. Yes, this will be with her for the rest of her life no matter what she does. I don't think you ask her "well, sweetie, what would you like to do?" I think you present the facts, the morals that you grew up with and that you raised your kids with.

If you feel as a parent that abortion is wrong and that's what you taught her, than more than likely she will know that's not an option.

If you taught her that trying to raise a child while still being a child is not in the best interest of the baby, than more than likely she will place that child in the home of two loving parents more than willing to adopt.

Will any of these decisions scar her, yep! Will any of these make it easier for her to live with, absolutely. That's why talking to your kids is KEY before you get into this situation. Whatever morals you feel need to be taught to your children, you teach them, and hopefully they stick. Unfortunately they can and will go out and make bad choices, veering from those morals, but as a consequence, many return to the morals to try and fix what they broke.

Again, my opinion, but I think that even if a young 14 year old girl goes through the pregnancy with embarrassment and all, and even the more difficult time of giving that baby up, she will one day know that she did what was in the best interest of that child, and that, I feel is the ultimate love. That would come with lots of love, patience, forgiveness and compassion from the parents.

I was 15 years old when one of my best friends got knocked up. She told her parents she was pregnant and wanted to give the baby up for adoption, she was told she couldn't do that because her family would be disgraced. She offererd to move away with her grandmother, where no one knew her, but they didn't budge. They also told her that after the abortion, she would be sent to some sort of convent and they would not allow her back because what was done, was done. They told her she was permanently dirty and disinherited. She ran away and lived with her grandmother until the baby was born, and did put the baby up for adoption. To this day, she says that although there is the pain of the memory, she feels an even greater sense of joy knowing that her baby is alive, loved and taken care of somewhere.

My advice is to pray to the good Lord for guidance in the decision of what to do since He is the one that gave her this gift.

Good Luck!

14 is way too young... buy her a chastity belt or some sort of birth control... or you could just lock her in the closet and throw away the key

Oh my... I feel for you! This is extremely tough. First, tell her no matter what you will HELP her, and BE THERE for her! As someone who has been through an abortion, I will tell you honestly that it was a terrible experience for me (Just make sure you decide on the surgical route and that they put her WAY under!). Make sure to do what is the safest, most comfortable, and not the cheapest! HOWEVER, when I look at my decision, I KNOW it was right FOR ME. The guilt I would feel for bringing this child into this world under these circumstances is far worse than the guilt I feel today. She will struggle no matter what, and she will feel guilt no matter what. Please do not MAKE her decide. Just know that in all honesty she's looking at you for the way out. She's young enough that if you say, "I think you should get an abortion", that she can put blame on you. Are you OK with that? Perhaps that will be the biggest thing you could ever do for her as her mother. Make your own decision as to what YOU feel is best, and then be COMPLETELY honest with her. Know that if she has it, most likely it will be more yours... Stay strong!

Ok first of all No one should ever resort to ABORTION.. That is not the answer if you are having sex you have to also consier the consiquences.I was 15 when I got pregnant and thought about abortion but I also had to think about just because I was careless it's not fair to my unborn child.I am now 17 and my daughter is 8 months old.And I swear on the bible I wouldn't change anything that happened.I love her and she is my world.Every child is a gift from god now why would you even consider abortion you could always give he baby up for adoption.Please consider other options and E-mail me if your daughter needs someone to talk to.I know what she's going through.

I got when I was 14 1/2 the worst thing they could do is to talk about abort. Please lisign 2 what she wants 2 do, and be their for her and most impo. Talk to the baby's dad.

If I was her dad id find the guy and break him in half... girls her age shouldn't be getting pregnant or even be having sex... I believe in sex after marriage... cause with girls a lot of guys try to use that I love you line just to get them in bed and its as wrong as can be, just be there for her and love her, that's all you can do, I wouldn't know what to do either if I was her dad, id just be so pissed off and want revenge in everyway possible

Very good welldone

I'm 14 years old and I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant although I'm older then your daughter and ill be 15 on the 24th.. I think that you should talk to her.. it was very hard for me when my mom found out I was pregnant she kept pressuring me to abort.. I hated it I felt that even though I was young I had to make my own decision about it.. I'm sure its hard for you too... the lst thing you want for your daughter is this but its not the worst thing that could happen. Just make sure you go over with her how hard it is.. the morning sickness the swelling, the backaches and the stress of being sooo young. It is very hard for me and now I relize even after my mom told me. Having a child is a big responsibility. I think you should just remind her that you love her and let her make her own decision. And remember its not the worst thing that could happen..

You seem to wonder about this every time. If you need some info I will find a link for you [teasing {semi]] -- ZSavage

I think that you need to sit down with your daughter and discuss the pros and cons of all scenarios. Adoption, abortion, keeping baby. Once she sees it written out like that I think the best answer will come to her. I am sure she is a smart girl who just made a stupid mistake. We have all been there at some point. Personally, I think at 14, she is far too young to care for a child. She can not hold a job, drive to the doctor, or rent an apartment. You will be the one caring for the child while she is in school, and since she can not hold a job or get an apartment, you will also be feeing, clothing, and housing the baby. That is not necessarily fair to you. She needs to consider that in her list. I also believe at 14 she is too young to carry a child. The baby could cause health issues in such a young body. Now, believe it or not I am Pro-choice, although I would never personally have an abortion, but I understand situations come up. I think that if she did manage to carry the child to full term, it could be born with a serious defect, and/or harm the girl. That isn't to say that abortion is the easy answer either, it could also pose health risks to the girl. If the baby was carried to term and born healthy, then you must face the emotional hardship that you daughter will undergo with adoption. I think you are stuck between a rock and a hard place here. You and her need to sit down together and really weigh all the situations. I wish your family the best of luck and I hope that I was able to help. I am really unsure what I would do in your situation, but I know for sure that I would listen and love my daughter, and support her in whatever decision SHE made. Because ultimately it is her life and her child at stake here. I also agree with some other posters that some sort of therapy or counselor would be beneficial. I am keeping you all in my prayers.

I 100% agree with you.

It's a big deal, she shouldn't even be sleeping with guys right now

I'm 27 I had a termination at 16 and it was my choice not my farthers but for 2 years I'm trying to conceive but just found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant what I'm trying to say it she has all her life to have a child but also can you live with regret esspecially if you make the chioce for her and in a few years time she throws this at you are you stroung enough to make the rite choice