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    JudyKayTee Posts: 46,503, Reputation: 4600
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    #41

    Mar 10, 2009, 08:33 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma View Post
    I have gotten two reddies for not being black in this thread. This is unacceptable. When you post a thread in a public forum, you open yourself to answers from anyone on this board. You cannot pick and choose. There are other white people and an asian on this thread, why was I targeted? This thread has been reported.


    Black women who only want to hear from other Black women should post on a Black women forum.

    No one has the right to DEMAND only certain people answer.

    Ridiculous - of course, note the text speak and consider the source.

    And I agree - you were unjustly criticized.
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    #42

    Mar 10, 2009, 08:19 PM

    Juda I don't think the poster had any ill intentions I think they only wanted to hear from other woman of the same ethnicity as herself. Its not racist, they simply wanted to know what works best on african american skin.
    Furthermore this forum is one of the largest forums on the net and many black womaen are members compared to other sites that have a lower membership.
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    #43

    Mar 10, 2009, 11:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Hard to take you seriously when you are text speaking. I realize it saves time but I don't see that as an issue here.

    I love myself and I'm not trying to change the color or tone of my skin.

    I'd prefer to be taller, in fact, but I'm not trying miracle cures for that.
    Judy, I think that the OP is being misunderstood and you may be taking this the wrong way. There is no need to say that is she wants opinion from black women she should go post on a black forum, I think that is unnecessary.
    I think as we can see from the responses the OP received several people who were not black replied, and their replies were appreciated. I don't think Punk chic is black if am correct. I think the other ladies question was just unpleasant. This is a skin lightening forum, don't come in here asking me why do I want to change the color or my skin, its simply not your business, and the other lady did not even attempt to answer the OP's question she replied by asking her a question that just came out sounding very demeaning.
    Its not surprising you as well have been curious about this and the truth is that its different for everybody, there is no one reason for why people want to lighten their skin, and the same way that white people tan, it puzzles some black people who think fair skin is beautiful.
    I thinks its very irritating when you post a question especially with this skin lightening process and the first response you get is someone asking you why do you want to change your skin. I think if someone is really curious about that they can either start a new topic asking black people why they do that or simply read theough the archives because that question has been asked before.
    Also, I think the OP, stated black people because black skin is thicker and lightening creams that work on caucasian or asian skin may not work for black people.

    Peace.
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    #44

    Mar 11, 2009, 05:26 AM
    I've seen that too often, instead of answering the question they only ask a question. That's very frustrating.
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    #45

    Mar 11, 2009, 05:42 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by cutebeth View Post
    Judy, I think that the OP is being misunderstood and you may be taking this the wrong way. There is no need to say that is she wants opinion from black women she should go post on a black forum, i think that is unnecessary.


    What part of this am I misunderstanding? "Originally Posted by ma889 - Ill think ull find it says black women only!!!"

    If I want to hear from a specific group and only that specific group, I go that group's website - in this case that would be Black women.
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    #46

    Mar 11, 2009, 05:45 AM

    Judy as you wish then, I guess those of us who are blacks understand what the OP meant. Good luck to you and the other person, hope you guys find the answers to your question.

    Peace.
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    #47

    Mar 11, 2009, 06:02 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post

    I'm curious about the same thing and I've never gotten an answer on this board - why are so many "black women" so apparently unhappy with the color of their skin? Is it uneven skin tone? A desire to be lighter? Why?
    Hello, JudyKayTee.
    I have wrote about this on the skin lightening FAQ. Here is the thread https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/skin-l...ns-190905.html

    Have a great day! :)
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    #48

    Mar 12, 2009, 12:38 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    What part of this am I misunderstanding? "Originally Posted by ma889 - Ill think ull find it says black women only!!!"
    Hi JudykayTee,
    I am not black woman although I am brown. I didn't mind when I see Cherryblueskie's question because there is nothing wrong with her question. As Cutebeth said, I think you are misunderstanding on this question. In my opinion, this question means "what skin lightener is effective for black women's skin", it doesn't necessarily mean "black women only answer what skin lightener is effective". Why don't you see this question in that way?
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    #49

    Mar 12, 2009, 12:48 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by so sexy View Post
    I've seen that too often, instead of answering the question they only ask a question. Thats very frustrating.
    Yaaa... I strongly agree with you. Some ppls, they just want to post and don't really have any idea about the questions. Then, they ask question back to the poster. Someone ask me back to my question once like: 'Why aren't you happy with what you are now?".
    Think about it ! If I am happy with what I am now, I will not ask any questions for any advices And it is none of their business to ask me why. Isn't it? :cool:
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    #50

    Mar 12, 2009, 05:55 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by wannabbeautiful View Post
    Yaaa... I strongly agree with you. Some ppls, they just want to post and don't really have any idea about the questions. Then, they ask question back to the poster. Someone ask me back to my question once like: 'Why aren't you happy with what you are now?".
    Think about it ! if I am happy with what I am now, I will not ask any questions for any advices And it is none of their business to ask me why. Isn't it?? :cool:


    I was responding to this: "Luscious Leo disagrees: No offense, but what part of Black women only don't you understand?"

    Do you use text speak to save time when on the board?
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    #51

    Mar 12, 2009, 12:22 PM

    I know JudyK is probably just trying to help by stating that there should be no segregation here and I support that, I was just telling her that the poster didn't mean it the way it sounded, am glad want to be beautiful tried to explain as well. Anyway I love this board becos for the most part everybody is real, unlike other forums that try to sell you stuff every time.

    Peace all.
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    #52

    Mar 13, 2009, 12:26 AM

    Nicely said cutey, and misunderstanding do occur, juda would off gotten the poster point if he was able to look past his initial anger and tunnel vision.

    Just my opinion
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    #53

    Mar 13, 2009, 07:25 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by lighterrr View Post
    nicely said cutey, and misunderstanding do occur, juda would off gotten the poster point if he was able to look past his initial anger and tunnel vision.

    just my opinion
    ... is this even in English? Who's anger and tunnel vision are you referring to?

    And by the way, "Judy" is a female.

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