[Paola_17]

so me and this guy have been together for a month and about 4 days...when we hang out together its great...(couldn't be better) but then when we go our separate ways...everything starts to fall down. meaning that i basically have to be ALL UP ON HIM... calling, texting him and writing cute letters that come from my heart. i really care about him. and until this day i have no dought that me and him are meant to have something together.

what i'm confused about is that i keep asking him why doesnt' he calls me? and he gives me this BS saying that he's depressed and he doesnt want to make me depressed....WELLLLLL he's making me depressed by not calling at all. and every time i call him, it seems like he wants to rush me off the phone saying that he's going to call me later but never does. so what should i do?? i really need some advice...because im trying to make this work but sometimes it seems like im the only one trying. :(

[Stunning07]

Listen I'm sorry to say but the more you call and text this person the more you annoy him the more he wants space, My GF use to do that to me all the time, and it was so annoying, it does't seem like it but, he actually likes you doing that, annoying him, its human nature, he has all your attention, ever since I my girlfriend stopped annoying me... I stratered doing what she did so I'm basically in your shoes, and I'm training myself to quit bugging! Her! Its hard because they don't understand but learn to be mysterious and show him your busy give it two weeks and he will act the way you want him to, I'm telling you that because it happened to me. And other people I know good luck

[Paola_17]

Thanks so much!!!!.... i really appreciate it....the only thing that im afraid about is that he gets kinda upset when i dont call him...and he starts telling me that i dont show him enough attention.

[talaniman]

He likes what your doing, but doesn't want to do it back. Guess he figures you do enough for you both. Not very equal, but who am I to judge.

[Paola_17]

He likes what your doing, but doesn't want to do it back. Guess he figures you do enough for you both. Not very equal, but who am I to judge.

yea i think your kinda right....so maybe i should do what u told me and stop calling and texting him....and if he complains then i'll tell him that he doesn't show me enough attention either. but let's just hope everything works out.

[Stunning07]

No don't tell him that! Just do the exact thing he does with his pathetic excuses... that's all paly his game

[AW805]

Its only been a month - why get so intense? Stop calling and texting so much. Whether you're a guy or girl - that's enough to push anyone away.

[Emerald19]

Ya the last person is right. Trust me don't rush things and play the field because all your going to do is stress yourself out for nothing. When you guys hang out hang out when you don't you don't. Don't trip over this if it doesn't play in your favor talk to someone else. Always keep your options open

[Paola_17]

but is not like im callin or textin him 24/7 ....i only call him once a day and if he doesnt pick up then i text him sayin that i miss him...that's all i do. the thing that bothers me is that i always have to call or else we wont talk.

[talaniman]

thing that bothers me is that i always have to call or else we wont talk.

If he can't give a little to get a little, thats a red flag that he is selfish or controlling. Talk to him about your concerns and if he refuses to change and accommodate your feelings, you have two options, rethink the relationship, or stop texting. Sometimes the only respect you get are the ones you demand.

[Stunning07]

ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS YOU NEED TO START! Today ill start with you, don't argue don't fight simply do what he's doing play it off smart

[Paola_17]

ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS YOU NEED TO START! today ill start with you, dont argue dont fight simply do what he's doin play it off smart

thanks so much.... i guess we are both going to be playing the same game.

[Stunning07]

Yes its very hard especailly since were going to be the ones that are holding it in...

[Paola_17]

this is hard...i havent called or texted him all day

[diya]

I think you're going overboard with the whole thing... and scaring the guy away. Just one month, and you expect things to be falling in place as you desired. Honey, it doesn't work that way. You know something, if you want to be respected and want this guy to be with you for a longer period, then take my advice... please try to get to know him with little slow moves... he doesn't call or text is only because he might be trying to see the depth of waters. Either way you'll be the loser. If he guesses u're too deep into it already, then he would know he has you to empower control, and his chase charm would also vanish... so this is going to be fatal again. IF you want to retain this guy, make the right moves... with dignity... DON'T SHOW EMOTIONS(which u're already doing by constantly texting and calling) and trust me, will be manipulated later on.

Forcing him one way or the other to call / text may result in some serious pain. If he wants to, he will. Just give him space, and give him time. But don't be all depressed either because that'll get you no where. Act okay with things, and be okay with things. CALM DOWN. Breathe, and be okay.

[Paola_17]

Thanks for the advice.....what do i do if he calls or texts???...should i act like im busy?? when i really have been waiting for him to call all day long.....but just try not to show it?? help needed =[

[diya]

When he calls, say" yeah we can talk for 2 min and then I need to do something very urgent" and hang up precisely after the initial few min... show you have other things to do as well... it's human nature, when we get attention, we take it for granted... and that's precisely what your b/f is doing... I repeat... it's too early for you to wait for anyone's calls... u're putting your life on hold for an uncertain future with someone you hardly know. If you stay normal and concentrate on knowing him more than jumping onto things, you'll never have to write a post on BReak ups here... later on that is..!

[Paola_17]

When he calls, say" yeah we can talk for 2 min and then I need to do something very urgent" and hang up precisely after the intial few min....show you have other things to do as well....it's human nature, when we get attention, we take it for granted...and that's precisely what your b/f is doing.....I repeat....it's too early for you to wait for anyone's calls....u're putting your life on hold for an uncertain future with someone you hardly know. If you stay normal and concentrate on knowing him more than jumping onto things, you'll never have to write a post on BReak ups here...later on that is....!!!

THANKS SO MUCH.....that was really helpfull.... :)

[Paola_17]

i have another problem...would anyone like to help?

[Stunning07]

Wahts that problem let it out