[emiflea]

My best friend (we'll call her "Kacie") accidentally saved her Myspace password on my computer from the last time she was here, so out of curiousity, I logged in and read something I was probably NEVER meant to read. This is a message she sent to her good male friend, who's girlfriend has not liked me for a long time, and he probably doesn't either. Here is the message:

"ps, Tell (his girlfriend) I always liked her more than (me) pretty much. BUT DO NOT TELL (me) THAT. I do like (me). She is nice; a little annoying and pretentious of course but still one of the only people I know who hasen't screwed me over."

I know I shouldn't have been snooping, but ? I feel like I'm being used kind of, who calls the person they say they love so much and their "best friend" annoying and that they like their friend's girlfriend more than they like me? She hangs out with me, and talks to me all the time, she never talks to his girlfriend. I guess I should add that about six months ago, I dated Kacie's ex-boyfriend, but he cheated on me with her (we weren't friends until about four months ago... and I don't care about my ex at all... they are exes now, I was most glad to get HER friendship), maybe she's still secretly mad at me for it? I want to mention it to her, I'm MAD and hurt, if I don't talk to her for a few days, or tell her I'm mad, I'm going to have to tell her why I'm mad, and "I LOGGED INTO YOUR MYSPACE AND READ THAT MESSAGE" is not as bad as what she said about me, but not good either. What do I do, I love her, she is my really good friend, do I assume she was just trying to get on his good side, or that she is just using me and talks sh** about me all the time? I don't know what to think, or how to talk to her about it. Help!!

[phoenix1664]

Well I snooping in your friends my space was not a good thing to do to start with, but I think here (I dated Kacie's ex-boyfriend, but he cheated on me with her) that you should have been the angry one not her, you could ask her about it but not obviously just ask if she likes this girl and things like that if you think she is lying then tell her, you might be right she might not have meant it it might have just been to get into his good books.

[oh octopi]

The way your friend sounded, it seemed like she was just trying to get on his good side. If she truly felt that way about you, she wouldn't have been like "oh well i still like her, and she's my friend and all" she wouldn't even admit that. She'd probably say something along the lines of "no, i really don't like her at all you know? i just chill with her when i'm bored, and i feel (whatever way) about her, so i tell her we're friends, and plus she has (enter something you have that she doesn't here) so that's a bonus." although it isn't right of her to say anything bad about you since you're supposed to be best friends.

[Przk89]

I think you should really talk to her, I mean, as oh_octopi said, it really didn't seem like she was being totally evil (lol). She probably slipped, it happens to everyone. Be honest to her about what you did, and ask her for honesty in return. Also, even though she's your best friend, you shouldn't get mad about her having OTHER friends (even though what she said wasn't cool with me). And remember, even if she really doesn't want to be your friend anymore, I'm 100% sure you'll find someone else (let's hope it doesn't come to that). That's just my opinion though, follow your gut! ;)