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Genuineforce · Apr 24, 2007, 10:39 AM

Hey all! Question for you guys, here's the situation, I'll try to keep it short:

My girlfriend maybe a couple months ago made me think that she wasn't honest with me, I didn't want to pick on her with my own insecurities, so I left it alone, never even mentioned it to her. It was because I asked her if she had fun one night after she was hanging out with friends. She replied "yes I had fun, yea I was so tired last night I'm glad I got a lot of work done" To me that speech pattern and what she said made no sense about anything, so it seemed that it was some sort of lie to cover up what she really did that night. But as I said I didn't say anything about that and left it alone.

Recently I just get the feeling that she talks to (possibly more) other guys. She still logs on to the dating site that I met her on. She has been there at least 3 times a week for the last couple months. Actually I hacked into her account to see if she was talking to anyone, she hadn't sent any messeges to anyone, but she did send winks, and there is an option to choose if you think you'd match well with someone, her and a couple guys have clicked that to each other. I got suspicious because why would she keep going on that site, we have been together for 7 months now. So today I created a fake profile, pretending to be someone else. Now she lists her contact info if you want to chat with her, so it was easy to start chatting with her as this other guy.

So far she has revealed to me that she doesn't have a boyfriend, and is "fishing" around, since she's "just got out of a 7 year relationship". She went into detail to me about what kind of guy she likes etc. So as you can imagine I am pissed off.

My question: Is she cheating on me already? Should I break up with her? Tell her that I caught her? Or maybe keep up with the fake profile to get more proof? How do you all think I should deal with this issue? I appreciate all of your help in other posts, and I respect you guys opinions

Secret_J · Apr 24, 2007, 10:48 AM

Why don't you just talk to her?

Your investigation of being another person is already proof that something is not right in your relationship and she might/still be lying to you. You will keep on stressing about this the more you find out so why put yourself through that?

Talk to her - tell her everything you found out. See what she says, see how she reacts and when that happens, you and only you will know what to do.

Genuineforce · Apr 24, 2007, 11:15 AM

Should I do this in person, or over the phone, I may not see her for another week and a half.
Thanks

Secret_J · Apr 24, 2007, 01:03 PM

I suggest you wait it out to talk to her in person. That way you can see everything - her facial impressions, her eyes, how her body language is. You can find a lot about a person if they are lying or not if you talk to them face to face.

Lowtax4eva · Apr 24, 2007, 01:19 PM

I still keep up with what I said in the other post (this was posted about 3 times) that if she has innocent reasons for being on this site and you tell her you hacked her account and have been watching what she does this could backfire.

In her mind you'll just be overly posesive and have no trust in her. If you can bring this up without saying you have been following her every move on this site it would be better.

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