[kat10436]

Hi, I'm in a great relationship and love my boyfriend but I get so jealous of him! Not to do with girls but just things in general like money, holidays, family stuff etc and its driving me crazy. I'm trying really hard not to be but something always happens that makes me jealous and then I'm angry at myself for being it because I know I shouldn't.

Why do I get so jealous of him? And please help someone how can I stop it before I hate him and myself. Thanks xxxx

[JoeCanada76]

First of all Jealousy is your problem not his.

Did you grow up not having a lot of things? Are these things that he has, you wished you have always had?

You need to remember that every person grows up with different circumstances.

It is important for you not to seek or look for things that you want, but just be thankful in the things you do have.

Being envious of what other people have will only cause problems but only you can figure out what is causing it to happen and why you feel the way you do. Also if you keep a lot of this inside instead of sharing your feelings and thoughts with someone or a journel, I believe it will only get worse.

Joe

[Lez]

Yes I agree with jesushelper76.
Start looking at what you want from life and what ambitions you want to take. Always looking at what everyone else has got will only depress you start looking at the people that don't have anything and then compear it to what you do have. ( like people having to walk miles for dirty water)

[shygrneyzs]

I would dare you do not have this great relationship right now - because your jealousy is over hanging whatever progress you and your boyfriend make in the relationship.

I would also ask you if you are jealous or envious? Big difference. Either way, you can overcome that. It does take a dedicated effort but you need to learn how to control your emotions now. Even if you do not stay with this boyfriend, because this is most likely to come up again in another relationship. Jealousy comes from a deep insecurity - so finding out now how to address your own problems will prevent future problems.

You can truly have a wonderful, healthy relationship with this guy. He will appreciate how you manage your emotions, instead of possibly turning away from you. AS no one is going to put up with a jealous partner for long. It is too time and energy consuming.

Jealousy ~ How To Overcome Jealousy and Stop being Jealous
Jealousy
Overcoming Jealousy
BBC - Relationships - Couples - Understanding jealousy

[KimFalidan]

This Jealousy problem you got, is a well seen example.
I'm 95 % sure, that your jealousy problem is because of low-self esteem.
I recommend you to read the free e-book The Jealousy Book.
It contains a chapter about low self-esteem, in connection with jealousy.
Visit the site right here: www.Thejealousybook.com