[nhnance21]

She is 36, married, 4 children of her own. She has no problem calling me and yelling at me for whatever is bothering her. She knows I will not tolerate her raising her voice to me, and I warn her to speak to me in a respectful tone, but she tells me she will speak to me however she wants.. at which point I tell her she will NOT, and I disconnect the call. The most recent issue was me not telling her that her brother was doing drugs (he's 29). I did not tell her because her 21 month old old (my grandson) was recently diagnosed with leukemia and in the hospital. When I found out about my son, I decided not to increase her stress any more than it was already. My son then overdosed and ended up in the hospital, and when she found out I knew he was doing drugs and didn't tell her, she called me up in work and blindsided me. She asked me why I didn't tell her and I told her because of Mason being so ill, and not wanting to stress her further. She started yelling at me and then I told her not to talk to me that way, she said she would talk to me any way she wanted, I said no you will NOT, and I hung up. This is not the first time I have hung up on her, after warning her to speak to me respectfully. I am really hearbroken that she disrespects me so much, and I am 'done' taking it. I have not spoken with her for about 6 days, and have no desire to do so. Anyone else deal with something like this, and how did you handle it? I am not a punching bag, and have feelings. I treat everyone with consideration and respect, and compassion. I do not get the same back. Thank you in advance for any guidance or experience you can relay to me.

[waltero]

Have fun with it, ignore/avoid it. When somebody goes into a tirade just act normal, you don't even have to respond to it. Start
talking about something else, be nice and think Happy thoughts. Start talking as soon as you pick up the phone that way she is most likely to forget herself.

[Fr_Chuck]

Stop warning and playing her game. Ignore for a while. Then hand up when she starts, not after an argument and warning