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    Sep 17, 2016, 11:45 AM
    Husband's betrayal
    AssalamOAlaikum sir, I'm a housewife and much much worried because of my husband. He is involved in other girls and he is doing in front of me and saying that it's not wrong if I talk to girl for friendship. I'm sincere with him
    N love him a lot so what should I do? I feel bad and can't tolerate this. My behaviour gets worse sometimes due to the situation. I need your help sir. Plzz guide me according to the teachings of Islam.jazakAllah
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    Sep 17, 2016, 02:26 PM
    You are unclear as to the nature of his involvement with other girls. Is it polite and friendly and RESPECTFUL that is different from flirty, and forward, and DISRESPECTFUL. Can you clarify this, and the nature of YOUR behavior as a reaction?
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    Sep 17, 2016, 03:17 PM
    Also... depending on where you live.. there are a couple countries where Polygamy is still legal, and you wouldn't have any say in it unfortunately. A Muslim friend of mines mother suffers from a similar situation. Only his involvement went beyond being "involved" and into having married several more.
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    Sep 18, 2016, 05:23 AM
    Agree with the others - there is a lot of variety among nations and within nations regarding the treatment of wives under Islam.
    In general, wives are expected to put up with their husbands. You will be told that it's your fault that he is flirting with other women, or that he should be allowed to.
    My only suggestion is to get out with your women friends or relatives more, to shop or have lunch or just walk in a park, and talk it out with them.
    Jealousy is not good for you or the marriage or anyone.
    In other cultures, both husbands and wives do some harmless flirting, and it helps keep the marriage interesting. Of course it can go too far, but it can go too far regardless, and usually it's GOOD for the marriage.
    But under Islam, women just don't have that option.
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    Sep 22, 2016, 12:13 AM
    0331,

    First of all we don't know where you leave, Second how would he do this in front of you, are these other girls his wives or just just having the for fun, it looks like he has done this many times before now you don't like it and you are Jealous, any how you need to talk to your family or if there is any imam that you can talk to him, to me he is sick and you need to talk to him, good luck.

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