Cat, until you posted I didn't read it that way, but now that you posted, I'm seeing it that way too.
It sounds like the OP is getting married, and that his soon to be wife may not be physically fit to carry a child. He's worried that if they have sex the first night of their marriage, which is customary in his religion, that she could become pregnant and put her life at risk. He wants to know if it's okay for them not to have sex until she's healthy enough for a pregnancy, because he doesn't want to risk a pregnancy that could be very dangerous for her considering her physical ailments.
I don't know what the law is for your religion, but I want to say that anything you do for the love of the person you're marrying, can't be wrong in any God's eyes. You love the woman you're about to marry, and you want her to be safe. Your Allah, same as the God I believe in, would surely smile on that, and bless that.
I wish you all the best in your marriage, and I for one commend you for the concern you have for the woman you're about to be with forever. I hope that one day she's strong enough and that you are blessed with a family. They'd be very lucky to have parents like you. :)
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