[sriniparin]

I am 23 yrs old. My boyfriend and I are in a relationship for 7 yrs. My boyfriend went to abroad for higher studies. It has been 2 and half years. He doesn't have any idea about his return. We used to have lot of sex before he went there. We used to have sex talk. But from 4 to 5 months even though he brings it up I am changing the topic. I don't know what happened to me. I just gradually lost interest in it. I don't masturbate. We are loyal to each other. I love him a lot. He asked me yesterday about it and I explained everything to him. He was upset and he understood me. He told me that he won't bring that topic again if I am not interested in it. I am hurting him a lot. Will everything return back to normal if he comes back to me? What happened to me?

[Dchdman]

Hello

Please note I am no psychologist though I will give you a few things to think about.

It is possible maybe in the back of your mind that you have decided without knowing you have that you don't want to talk about sex because your holding out until that day he finally returns to you.

Maybe you don't want to talk about sex as in the back of your mind that was a happy time for you , and now that he's been away for 2 and half years and the fact he doesn't have any idea about his return it's become painful to think about sex.

Or maybe you don't want to talk about sex as you really , Really , really miss him .

The Mind is one of the greatest tools in the world , though it is also one of the greatest puzzles / conundrums to .

I hope this helps and gives you a few things to think about.

[sriniparin]

Thanq for your reply... it is very helpful... I'm feeling less guilty now... it is just too painful to be away from him... I used to have a lot of tym before and I used to talk to him whenever he is free... but now I am attending college and doing post graduation... our timings doesn't match... this also became a factor... I started concentrating on my studies instead of thinking about it... he is also very supportive and understood me... I may return to normal once he comes back to me...

[Dchdman]

Glad to help, though just remember once you are both back together, take things slow at first to get use to each other again, don't just go all out and have hanky panky ( sex ) straight off .

Do some dating first / go out / talk and get the mental situation good first before you do the physical stuff.

[Fr_Chuck]

Has he returned even for a visit, in 2 years? A long distance relationship is very hard. When are you going to travel to him for a visit (holiday) visiting a foreign place would be good.