[GorgeousGrandma]

Hi, thanks for reading. I'm in search of some positive insight... My husband and I have been together for 10 years. Well recently he took a job that has him out of state 90% of the time :( I miss him so much, I didn't really want him taking the job because I knew it would be hard for me, I just don't know how to cope better I cry a lot and I feel I'm starting to go into depression. I've talked to my husband and he makes me feel better and assures me he's just doing what he has to do. I just hate it so bad and I just wish I didn't feel so sad all the time. Eventually I will have the funds to travel and see him more but as for now that's not an option.

[Wondergirl]

You don't work? Volunteer! An animal shelter, a nursing home, a hospital, a library, a museum. Giving of your time and your skills will make others smile and keep you from feeling alone.

[GorgeousGrandma]

No I don't work at the time I keep my granddaughter a good bit of the time. I also do things often. I still miss him and hate not seeing him we always did everything together. So its just hard :(

[talaniman]

I realize it's tough but since you know it is temporary why not see this as an opportunity to do things you have always wanted to do on your own, and spend quality time with family, friends, and activities you enjoy while you have all this time on your hands.

Not only will time fly because you are busy and enjoying it, but you can share that happiness with others. While it's okay to miss your husband, spending your time in more positive ways while he works for both your benefit serves you both in the long run.

You don't HAVE to just sit there and be depressed because the separation is temporary right? I just read where you have a granddaughter, so kids too, and that should bring you a lot of joy in itself.

[GorgeousGrandma]

I enjoy spending time with her and I keep us entertained most of the time. I guess it just hits me the worst at night or when I'm not doing anything :(

[Wondergirl]

I enjoy spending time with her and I keep us entertained most of the time. I guess it just hits me the worst at night or when I'm not doing anything :(

Well, then, let's think of something you can do in the evening! *putting on my thinking cap*

[talaniman]

You could always read and answer questions on this site until you fall asleep.:D

[GorgeousGrandma]

Indeed :)

[joypulv]

Yes - your drunk chicken got me thinking.

I came here years ago to ask about wiring a new cooktop, and I was able to do it all by myself.

[teacherjenn4]

How about volunteering at a school? Teachers always need help!

[Fr_Chuck]

That is why, I am here now. My wife and I have to be apart for about 6 weeks. It has already been 4. And yes. Night time, when you go to bed, is often the worst. Or you see things in town, you always did together.

For me. My wife and I use free computer video and do a video chat every evening about bed time.

Also we use two of the many messenger systems, I us QQ and WeChat, whree we can send video, or photo's or message, or cute little icon. To each other. We try and send a photo of our meals, some of the things we do. I sent her short video of some of my students today. Photos of each meal. And when she has time, she looks at them. She does some of the same, so we both share the day together.

** we were doing some of that, even when together, to share our day (apart)

[GorgeousGrandma]

Thanks for the extra ideas chuck :) we do send pictures and glide we were coin tango but the app sucks so bad so we stopped. I'm going to tell him even though tango sucks just a few minutes of looking at each other every night is better than nothing. As far as taking pictures of what we're eating that woulbt be good because he misses my cooking and eats a lot of microwave stuff and he hates it!