[starstude]

if you want your ex boyfriend back what should you say to him when he wants to stay friends after a breakup

Does staying friends push them farther away from getting them back because even if you did want them back you would have to develop a relationship anyway

And does that give you no time to heal

Would that help them give them time to heal over you faster and get over you by being friends

[Homegirl 50]

If your boyfriend broke up with you, don't do the friend thing. Get over him.
If he says he wants to be friends it maybe to ease his feelings. Forget about the
"getting back with him" move on and heal.

[starstude]

What do you mean by ease feelings ?

[J_9]

How old are the two of you?

Please don't ask the same question repeatedly. We are volunteers here and will get to your question as our personal time allows.

[starstude]

From a guy's point of view or a girl's point of view how long did it take you heal from a break-up
What did you do to help yourself heal

[starstude]

OK how can you delete previous questions

[J_9]

How old are the two of you? I'm guessing 15.

[Homegirl 50]

When I say ease feelings, I mean he feels bad about breaking up so he says "we can still be friends" It makes him feel better and probably thinks it would make you feel better. Leave him alone so you can get over him. Go out enjoy time with your friends. Concentrate on school. Get a life apart from him.

[starstude]

How old are the two of you? I'm guessing 15.

We are in our late twenties

[J_9]

You are in your late 20s and playing childish games? You are exes for a reason. Being "friends" will only prolong the agony. Go No Contact and begin the healing process.

I really thought you were about 15 or 16.

[starstude]

When I say ease feelings, I mean he feels bad about breaking up so he says "we can still be friends" It makes him feel better and probably thinks it would make you feel better. Leave him alone so you can get over him. Go out enjoy time with your friends. Concentrate on school. Get a life apart from him.

OK does being friends with an ex help them get over you too by being friends
What would the definition of still being friends
How can you tell them you want them back and you do not want to be friends

[J_9]

You cut all ties. Being "friends" doesn't help the healing process. I still think you are 15 or 16. Most adults aren't this desperate.

[starstude]

You are in your late 20s and playing childish games? You are exes for a reason. Being "friends" will only prolong the agony. Go No Contact and begin the healing process.

I really thought you were about 15 or 16.

Your not playing childish games if in fact you want them back and do not want to play games

[Homegirl 50]

Being friends means you may talk every now and then, but that does not help you at all. You do as J_9 says. Go no contact and begin the healing process.
How can you tell them you want them back and don't want to be friends? You tell him just that, then you go no contact.

[J_9]

So, how old are you really? People in their "late twenties" aren't this desperate.

[Homegirl 50]

Why would you want someone back who dumped you? Why did you break up?

[starstude]

You cut all ties. Being "friends" doesn't help the healing process. I still think you are 15 or 16. Most adults aren't this desperate.

Most adults go through breakups and most might want to get their ex back if it's for the right reasons that does not mean your desperate,

That means your saying all adults who go through breakups and want their ex's back are desperate if that's what they truly want and they want to do it for the right reasons

[Homegirl 50]

You want to know how to get back with someone who dumped you. They left you for a reason, if they wanted you back, they would be back.
What you have to do is get over them, move on. Telling him you want him back does no good. He's the one that left.

[talaniman]

if you want your ex boyfriend back what should you say to him when he wants to stay friends after a breakup

You tell him maybe later, but not now, not for a while, you need time to adjust to being single again.

Does staying friends push them farther away from getting them back because even if you did want them back you would have to develop a relationship anyway

Acting like a friend, but wanting more is a miserable place to be and stops you from accepting the break up and healing from it properly, because you get caught up in FALSE HOPE for romance.

And does that give you no time to heal

None whatsoever.

Would that help them give them time to heal over you faster and get over you by being friends

It's not about them,its about YOU,and your healing. Sometimes they miss you, sometimes they don't. They never do if you are always around being friendly though. Sometimes they think friends is okay and move on from romance ideas before you do,and that's VERY miserable for YOU.

What do you mean by ease feelings ?

He was just being nice, rather than cruel, but hopes you take the hint and leave him alone about romance or love.

From a guy's point of view or a girl's point of view how long did it take you heal from a break-up

When I get dumped I accept it and leave her alone for a while and start doing my own thing.

What did you do to help yourself heal

Leave them alone,no calls texts or making a pest of myself begging for another chance or pretending to be friends to keep them close or get them back. Just high, and bye, wave and smile, and go about my business.

Hung around friends and family and had fun activities and hobbies, and kept my dignity and self respect by not becoming a pest, or acting like a lovesick fool.

Didn't take long at all to be a happy fellow ready for the next romance. No Contact and doing your own thing is the way to go. How old are you and how long were you together?

[J_9]

Then tell me what the "right reasons" are. What was his reason for breaking up with you? You failed to mention that.