Since you will be, and have basically been, a step-mother to the child, simply focus on the child and how much you care for her. You can comment on how verbal she is becoming, what a fun age she is, etc. if you feel it necessary to start a conversation. If she happens to bring up the past, maybe even offers an apology (not likely, but possible), accept her apology but let her know that your focus is on the well-being of little "Sarah" and out of respect for yourself, your soon-to-be husband and the child. Your actions will show that you are handling it in a mature way, no need to mention it. Who knows, in time you may warm up to her, but for now you can keep it civil and polite.
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