[joy2theworld]

I'm sure some of you are going to go back and read old answers but whatever. Some of my old questions I talk about my boyfriend and some problems about how I feel he doesn't have time for me or whatever. Recently we broke up. He broke up with me because he wanted to be single and didn't want the responsibility of a relationship anymore. I don't know.

We talked after that, then we went on a walk to talk some more about it after school and he kissed me.. A lot. It left me very confused. The next day he texted me saying he didn't want to be single and asked if we could hang out that night to talk about getting back together. We hung out that night but we never even talked about it. We acted like nothing ever even happened. Kissing, cuddling, saying I love you. I thought things were heading in the right direction.

Until today. He said we were together, but not together. Which means we are basically single. I though we were getting better. Fixing our issues. He had been acting more upset over the break up than I was. We just had a really deep talk over the phone with a lot of crying. Turns out people on his hockey team were bullying him so he quit and that's been stressing him out lately. He told me that he wanted me so bad. He also mentioned that he felt like he had been losing a lot of people lately. I just don't get that if he wants to be with me so bad, why won't he? And if he feels like he had been losing people lately, why would he lose me by choice? He just keeps changing his mind and I have no clue what he wants.

We are hangin out tomorrow to talk about it some more and this time I'm actually making him talk about it unlike last time. I just don't know what exactly to say to him because he's so confusing and if I say one wrong thing who knows what he'll do. I don't want to lose him.

[talaniman]

For whatever reason he has changed the relationship, you make sure you are not just used for face time until something better comes along. Sometimes you have to step back, and take a more objective look at what's really going on, and make a decision based on facts, and not just feelings. I know you don't want to lose the guy, but he has already dumped you, and in cases such as that, best to leave him alone, and assume he may never change his mind.

This is to protect you, and not for him to have his cake and eat it too with lame excuses, and the hard times story, which most fall for because they want to believe there is still hope. I think its best to instead of NOT letting him go, to let him sort himself out, and decide for himself what he wants without your influence.

Chances are very high he likes the attention, and you chasing him so hard, because he feels bad, and has nothing else good to hold on to, and you will feel bad when he does find that something else to get his feel good from. Yes I have read your other threads and in fact think you are with him for the same reasons, it feels good and distracts you from other issues in your life.

That's not at all unusual given your ages, people with similar problems and issues often gravitate together, but chasing a guy that dumps you because he is having a hard time (Or so he says) may not be the best way to go about this. Give this a lot more thought.

[Bee Practical]

As per my view talaniman is correct. Dear girl, you must not chase or want someone who is not sure about you. If the boy is sometimes making you feel good and then confusing you, I mean to say sometimes he is telling you that he wants you badly and then he is running away from the responsibility of yours then how can he be good for you? Give him space for a little while. Let him be calm and let him realize what exactly he wants. But don't chase him and If you really care about him and you do not want to lose him then be with him as his well wisher, a good friend. I guess you would love to help him or at least be with him, so what if just as a good friend. Hope it would help you. Take Care.

[Homegirl 50]

Leave him alone and tell him to leave you alone until he gets his head on straight. In the meantime, live your life. No relationship should have this much drama.