[1businessgirl]

My daughter and son-in-law invited me to join them and my 2 grandchildren on vacation but not my significnt other, I am stressing because I haven't told him yet. They are staying at a time share and there is room for him. I suggested he could buy his own plane fare. Is this something that is done ? My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 years and have visited my daughter and family before and my boyfriend really likes my family. Help!

[Alty]

Have you asked your children why they didn't invite him?

[Jake2008]

Yes, it would be good to know why they didn't invite him. It's also helpful to know whether you accepted this holiday arrangement.

I would be hurt, if I were him, and feel terribly left out, and snubbed- and according to you, there is no reason for that.

I can see getting your own room with your boyfriend, but joining the rest of the family for outings etc.

Is it possible they want you along to babysit?

[ScottGem]

When you visited your family before, did you share a bedroom? How old are your grandchildren? You say your boyfriend likes your family, but do they like him?

I don't know what time share they are staying at, but few have 4 bedrooms. And not knowing the ages and sexes if your grandchildren, I don't know if they would be sharing a room. So if there are 4, it would mean you would be sharing a bedroom. If there are only 3, it would definitely require sharing a bedroom. I can see you daughter maybe not wanting to explain that to her children. And I think your boyfriend should understand that.

[talaniman]

I cannot imagine not asking them why your SO isn't invited, nor accepting their invitation under these circumstances. But this is something he needs to know AFTER you get the FACTS.