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Therev768 · Feb 4, 2014, 02:06 AM

My girlfriend and I started in a long distance relationship. Everything was great! We spoke all the time, skyped, took trips to see each other. We completely fell in love and I thought it was working. Recently though, I decided to pack up and move to her. I've been here a month and tonight she told me she thinks her feelings have changed. I am completely devastated and heart broken.. The worst part is I am living with her at her parents until I find my own place. I don't know what to do. My hopeless romantic side wants to stay here until her feelings change which, lately I've been trying to buy her love back. Or should I pack up, give up, and go back home? I don't want to give up on our relationship at all. I'm just lost, scared, and need some advice...

Catsmine · Feb 4, 2014, 04:30 AM

Packing up and moving out of her parents' house is a good idea regardless of how the relationship develops. Showing maturity and independence will most likely be more impressive than "trying to buy her love back." Looking at yourself objectively, are you coming off as "needy" or "clingy?" Only puppies require 24/7 physical contact, and you can get tired of even the cutest puppy.

talaniman · Feb 6, 2014, 01:30 PM

Get out of her parents house ASAP!

Therev768 · Feb 6, 2014, 09:09 PM

Well obviously I'm needy right now, I have nothing, know nothing and need a lot, but I'm trying not to be too needy. And believe me if I could get me own place yesterday I would. I just don't know whether to wait around to see if her feelings change or throw in the towel. Once a girl tells you her feelings have changed, is there ever getting those feelings back? Or should I cut my loses?

odinn7 · Feb 6, 2014, 09:11 PM

She already told you her feelings changed...just not the way you would like them to. At this point, you have to face reality, it's over. Buying her love will get you nothing except a smaller bank account. Buying love doesn't work.

Give it up, get out, and move on.

talaniman · Feb 7, 2014, 07:29 AM

Get you act together and being independent would help YOU a lot. I cannot imagine her, or her parents being that impressed with you. I know, its only been a month, and she is already disappointed. Not good.

smoothy · Feb 7, 2014, 07:48 AM

This is a perfect example of why long distance relationships are always a bad idea. Both parties develope beliefs that the other person is what they want (and they are usually wrong)....as they never see them for who they really are....and after someone moves a great distance and reality hits that they aren't what was created in their imagination....someone always ends up screwed in a big way.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 7, 2014, 07:55 AM

Sorry, but it sounds like this was doomed from the start.

First of course real life dating is a lot different than "online" and "distance" dating, talking on skype is not the same as having that person there all the time.

So, in this month, have you gotten a job ?

Who is paying your bills ?

Next. Moving in and living with someone is a lot different even if you were dating, local with each other.

Lastly, living with her parents is a pure disaster, since they now help control the ways things go.