[OrangSparkles19]

Me and him were dating for a what was going to be almost a year. Through out the first couple of months it was great we didn't want to be apart from each other. But throughout the months we would argue over things and even break up a lot. I found out he was talking sexually on twitter towards other girls, he said it was nothing serious. He use to tell me he loved me and never wanted to lose me and how he wanted to be with me forever. Another thing that bothered me was when ever we hung out he always wanted to have sex. We lost our virginities to each other. I always felt like only wanted me for sex or was just using me. He said he wasn't using me an just liked having sex with me a lot. He would get mad at me or cancel hanging out with me if I said no. just earlier tonight he broke up with me and said he didn't feel the same way anymore or he didn't know what he wanted anymore. It hurt me a lot I started crying and he was telling me not to cry. He told me to just leave him alone and he may be done with me for good. I loved and care or him so much. I don't know what to do. I just want to get over him.

[mashiat]

Well,you are pretty clear that he used you for physical pleasure! I might sound mean but that's true. It'll be hard to get over him as you loved him so much! What I'll suggest is, don't try to stop yourself from crying... Cry your heart out as much as you can! Trust me crying will relieve your pain real quick! Try to spend your time with a guy friend as much as you can... whenever you miss your boyfriend just call up that friend of yours and have a little chat or hang out.. but remember you better not fall for this guy as you would be spending a lot of time with him... Try to get this thing hard and core in your mind that this friend of yours is like a brother to you and is giving you support in your hard times and that you should be grateful! Plus hang out with your girlfriends too and your cousins! Take up comedy movies to watch at home when you are all alone at night. Listen to pumpy movies(esp RnB songs) to boost your mood whenever the memories haunt you! Whenever you miss him and can't help it just try to go for a walk out or take up doing something creatinve! I've been trhough this phase and all of the above have worked really well for me. Hope it works with you too.. Good luvk! ^_^

[Fr_Chuck]

Sounds like he was using you. ( he may not have even been his first, boys often lie about that) if he did not want to go out, and date and do other things, if all he wanted was sex. Guess what.?

You are better off without him.

[talaniman]

Sorry you had to learn this lesson the hard way, that your idea of love and his were two different things. His was physical, driven by hormones while yours was mental also driven by hormones. You gave and wanted to share, and all he wanted was to hare your body. Now that he has had your body, he wants other bodies.

Happens all the time when young people and even older ones think lust is love. Lust fades, love grows. You will heal, and learn but it will take time, but never forget the lessons you have learned from this.