[odinn7]

Yes, incredibly romantic! He would make me swoon!


Each one of your questions gets crazier than the last. You think that it's a good sign he kissed you in front of her...it makes you special? If you were special...he wouldn't have her around at all. But then again...if he meant anything to you, then you wouldn't be cheating on him either.

[Alty]

Yes but its letting her know I'm his wife

What?

So his mistress doesn't know you're his wife? You know she's his mistress, so I'm sure she knows that you're his wife, and she doesn't care any more than he does. If he did, she wouldn't be in the picture.

You're certifiable!

Maybe he kissed you to make his mistress jealous, make her want him even more. You're just a tool, in more ways than one.

[odinn7]

Maybe he kissed you to make his mistress jealous, make her want him even more. You're just a tool, in more ways than one.

Good point and I would bet that is exactly what he was doing.

[Fr_Chuck]

It is easy, he uses people to get what he wants. He controls you by using other women to make you behave. He even has you thinking it is special to show you affection in front of his mistress. ( sort of sick to the real world.)

He uses these as a person would do with emotional abuse and control of others though it. He seems very good, since you accept all the things he is doing and still stay.

I guess a normal person, may have told his mistress off in public and told her not to show her face again around her husband.

I guess in a normal world, a women would have myself respect than be with a husband who has all the mistress and throws it in her face.

But then, maybe you live in your own world, not the real one with the rest of us.

[Jake2008]

What a strange non-question.

[J_9]

Oh, Lisa. Have you ever considered professional counseling for this crazy dysfunctional world you live in?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search.php?searchid=99852

[Cat1864]

Once again your threads have been merged. Please add to this thread instead of making new ones about the same relationship issues.

Does he kiss you at home? Do you have an intimate relationship with him? Are you his wife or his legally wed maid?

Frankly, I wouldn't read too much into the fact that he kissed you at New Year's when surrounded by other people doing the same thing. I bet the Mistress was busy kissing other people too and didn't notice.

I do not know what you want from this marriage or what expect, but I can tell you that you are not going to get his undivided attention, his love, commitment or respect from him or yourself as long as things keep going the way they are.

[talaniman]

You had your moment, at church, but she will have her moments in bed. Which do you think he will remember more?

[Homegirl 50]

How old are you?
This marriage sounds very inappropriate on all kinds of levels. Why are you still in it?

[lisa1471]

I will always have my moment for I am the one who's always with him.

[Alty]

I will always have my moment for I am the one who's always with him.

So you watch when he has sex with his mistress? Does he watch when you have sex with your boyfriend?

[LadySam]

Just stating the obvious here, but there seems to be quite a bit of sleeping around.
So you may always be with HIM but you're with HER, her husband, whomever he may be sleeping with, and anyone else that may fall into this sad situation.
Have you thought about the risks to your health?