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odinn7 · Jul 30, 2013, 01:04 PM

Do this:

Tell him that he's an idiot.

Tell him he needs to prove he loves you.

Tell him he's an idiot.

Seriously though... he's an idiot. You should never have to prove to anyone that you love them. The fact that you are scared that this may cause an argument shows me that he has you under his control... you feel you need to do this to keep everything peaceful and happy. You don't need to do this. If you are worried about causing an issue by not "proving" your love, then he is not worth your time.

I also agree with others... he wants sex. He told you to decide what you want to do but everything you did for him wasn't good enough... he's playing a game with you and until you can realize that a partner that respects you will not do such things, he will continue to do so.

jackieelovee_ · Jul 30, 2013, 01:16 PM

You think he's 15 and he isn't :b I'm 15 he's 18 .

Wondergirl · Jul 30, 2013, 01:19 PM

Originally Posted by jackieelovee_

Ya'll think he's 15 and he isn't :b I'm 15 he's 18 .

That makes it even scarier. He is grooming you for sex and a life under his thumb.

N0help4u · Jul 30, 2013, 01:25 PM

Yep that's worse yet. And depending on your state law his proof may land him in jail.

JudyKayTee · Jul 30, 2013, 01:34 PM

"Ya'll think he's 15 and he isn't :b I'm 15 he's 18 ."

No, I'all think you're 15 acting like a 15 year old and he's 18 acting like a 15 year old. I think you are missing our points.

He's 18 and you gave him a poster to prove your love?

Where are your parents in this?

jackieelovee_ · Jul 30, 2013, 01:41 PM

Maybe because poster giving is what's in right now . And thank you very much but my parents passed away in a car accident I live with my cousin who's 20 so she isn't much help .

N0help4u · Jul 30, 2013, 02:12 PM

Like he said you haven't figured it out. You haven't figures it out because you aren't thinking like an 18 year old male.

talaniman · Jul 30, 2013, 02:18 PM

Thanks for the added information. He is definitely taking advantage of your young age, lack of guidance and support, and feelings for him, mostly your fear of losing him.

Protect yourself.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 30, 2013, 06:49 PM

This guy is trying to get you to have sex with him. He is taking advantage of you and you need to leave him alone. This is bad news.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 30, 2013, 10:43 PM

Proving it, is what older boys says, to get you to have sex. All he wants is sex and is saying if you don't have sex with him, you don't love him.

This is what they all say, nothing unsual about it.

jackieelovee_ · Jul 31, 2013, 12:37 AM

And say if I want to just have sex with him how will that affect us ? Or me ? Is it a wrong thing ? Like after that long of us being together I think its time but how will it affect us ?

martinizing2 · Jul 31, 2013, 01:20 AM

It stands a good chance of turning your life , your Baby's life,
And everyone around you into shambles.

There is no fool proof way of not getting pregnant except not having sex.
At 15 you are not ready. At 18 he should know better than to pressure you about sex unless he is selfish and immature and does not really care about you. If he did he would not act the way he does.

Sex does not prove love. Honest caring and concern for each other is a good indicator. He does not show this.

jackieelovee_ · Jul 31, 2013, 01:22 AM

He isn't pressuring me though...

N0help4u · Jul 31, 2013, 03:51 AM

A lot of guys say they respect a girl more for waiting. A lot of times when guys get you to bed Its all downhill because they got what they wanted. There is a saying 'Why buy the cow when the milk is free.'

talaniman · Jul 31, 2013, 06:08 AM

Originally Posted by jackieelovee_

He isn't pressuring me though ...

Naw, no pressure just prove you love him. The oldest line in the book for guys to get in a girls pants and the only proof he will accept.

How did that poster idea work out for you?

Fr_Chuck · Jul 31, 2013, 06:49 AM

Of course he is pressuring you, that is the entire "prove it" he is wanting you to say it is your idea

JudyKayTee · Jul 31, 2013, 07:16 AM

36 posts later my suspicions are confirmed - "And say if I wanna just have sex with him how will that affect us ?" So much for creating posters.

It's a sign of your level of maturity that you can't understand why sex and pregnancy at 15 are a very bad idea.

Be prepared for hearing a lot of "if you love me/want to "keep" me/want to be my girlfriend" you'll have sex with me if you're an average looking woman who dates.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 31, 2013, 07:22 AM

Originally Posted by jackieelovee_

He isn't pressuring me though ...

Sure he is. This is what all of this "prove your love for me" mess is about.
This guy is manipulating you and I'd venture to say if you get pregnant, he will be gone. You are not ready for sex or motherhood and this guy is in my opinion a jerk. You don't need a boyfriend or sex, you need an adult who is looking out for you and your best interest, who is aware of your dating this 18 year old.

odinn7 · Jul 31, 2013, 07:40 AM

Originally Posted by jackieelovee_

And say if I wanna just have sex with him how will that affect us ? Or me ? Is it a wrong thing ? Like after that long of us being together I think its time but how will it affect us ?

Where are you? It could affect both of you pretty well if he goes to jail for having sex with you.

Originally Posted by jackieelovee_

He isn't pressuring me though ...

LMAO!! That's what this whole "prove" thing is all about! You are being pressured, you just are too naïve to see it.

JudyKayTee · Jul 31, 2013, 08:41 AM

I am concerned legally on several levels - a 20 year old cousin has custody of this 15 year old; the boyfriend has "come over" to the house to talk to her about their break up and reconciliation (so the cousin knows); OP can't see she's being groomed; boyfriend is apparently quite careful not to SAY "have sex with me or I'm leaving," which I suspect he THINKS means sex will be her suggestion and/on consensual (and, of course, he's wrong and will still go to jail).

Many warning signs -