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    May 24, 2013, 05:47 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    Ask him why he did it, also ask him why he's still talking to her?
    Well he have to see her we belong same organization. He offered it him being nice.he just came out and said they're same size he can wear his and he said he was proud of him.WHY? I do ask but can't tell you if its true that's why I ask for opions

    Quote Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    It must be very difficult to forgive someone who cheats. Trusting that person again would be very difficult as well because you never forget. Not sure I could be the forgiving type.
    That's why I need to know if it's a mistake
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    #22

    May 24, 2013, 05:57 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lisa1471 View Post
    That's why I need to know if its a mistake
    No stranger can tell you that, that's something you have to figure out.

    He made his choices, bad ones, you made your choices, also bad ones. You've both cheated in this relationship, but you decided to stay together. You punish him every day for his mistake. You haven't forgiven him. Has he forgiven you?

    No matter what, you're an adult, you make your own decisions. No one can make them for you. Either stay or leave. Either accept that he screwed around, and forgive him (which means letting the affair go, never mentioning it again, stop making him pay for that mistake), or realize that you can't forgive (doesn't sound like you have) and leave. You also had an affair. Has he forgiven you? Does he mention your affair all the time? Does he obsess about it like you do?

    I really can't see this marriage lasting, that's my opinion. Neither of you respects your partner. He screws around, he still contacts the woman he had an affair with. You screw around too Why even bother with marriage? Just be single, have sex with whoever you want, and stop making each of your lives miserable. There's no love her, love doesn't do what you two have done. There's definitely no respect here, from either of you.
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    May 24, 2013, 06:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    No stranger can tell you that, that's something you have to figure out.

    He made his choices, bad ones, you made your choices, also bad ones. You've both cheated in this relationship, but you decided to stay together. You punish him every day for his mistake. You haven't forgiven him. Has he forgiven you?

    No matter what, you're an adult, you make your own decisions. No one can make them for you. Either stay or leave. Either accept that he screwed around, and forgive him (which means letting the affair go, never mentioning it again, stop making him pay for that mistake), or realize that you can't forgive (doesn't sound like you have) and leave. You also had an affair. Has he forgiven you? Does he mention your affair all the time? Does he obsess about it like you do?


    I really can't see this marriage lasting, that's my opinion. Neither of you respects your partner. He screws around, he still contacts the woman he had an affair with. You screw around too Why even bother with marriage? Just be single, have sex with whoever you want, and stop making each of your lives miserable. There's no love her, love doesn't do what you two have done. There's definitely no respect here, from either of you.

    That was previous I never cheated on him.your confused. I love him I bring it up cause its in existence.
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    #24

    May 24, 2013, 06:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lisa1471 View Post
    That was previous I never cheated on him.your confused. I love him I bring it up cause its in existence.
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...rk-646077.html

    So who was the guy you had an affair with for two years that you posted about last year in March?

    How many times have you been married? How long have you been married to the current husband?

    I've read back through some of your other posts. Really, the only thing I can recommend is severe mental help, severe therapy. You need it.
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    #25

    May 24, 2013, 06:27 PM
    Your profile says you're "single and ready to mingle". So are you married or not?

    Who's the ex that you were "making eye contact with" in January?

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ct-726119.html

    In that thread, post #3, you said you were no longer married.

    You can't seem to keep your story straight, and the posts you write show that you're not right in the head.

    Therapy, I highly recommend it!
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    May 24, 2013, 06:29 PM
    I believe I mentioned right from the start that Lisa cannot keep her stories straight. Too bad I don't have time to list the discrepancies.

    She is criticizing "her husband" but she herself is single and ready to mingle.

    Time to close this nonsense? Lisa has problems too complicated to address here plus a need for attention - good attention, bad attention, doesn't matter.
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    #27

    May 24, 2013, 06:32 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I believe I mentioned right from the start that Lisa cannot keep her stories straight. Too bad I don't have time to list the discrepancies.

    She is criticizing "her husband" but she herself is single and ready to mingle.

    Time to close this nonsense?
    Time to close and time to ban. This woman is one discrepancy after another. I'd say troll, but I'm not sure she's smart enough to pull that off. Wait... she isn't! ;)

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